Should I be mad if my cousin's wedding is similar to mine??

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If they liked my ideas that's fine but they should've ask me first instead of doing it like this. Even the bride's dress was mermaid like the one I picked with lace as a fabric. So far I haven't seen anything else but I can't believe my aunt did this. I really wanted my wedding to be unique and I worked hard for it. And now I see that they're copying me instead of doing their own thing. And our weddings are 7 months apart!! Now all their guests are gonna be surprised without even knowing those ideas where not theirs. Should I say something or stay quiet about it? My mom thinks its rude what they did. I'm not making a big deal but I think it is. I won't say anything today but should I say something later on??

I guess it kind of sucks but your day is over and done with. It's kind of flattering that they loved your style so much that they decided to replicate it. Another thing to think about is that they didn't even get engaged until after your wedding so it didn't give them much time to plan decor or save for something else.

ETA: Just read your continuation. How many people are even at both weddings? What do you expect to come out of you saying something to them? It's sounds kind of bratty too. Do you really think you are the ONLY person to come up with that idea?

Who cares! Be flattered that they loved what you did and wanted the same! You think all those people on Pinterest fry pusses off because someone used their idea? Your day is over, let her enjoy their day

I would not say anything to them. It would just upset the bride and make her feel bad about her wedding day when nothing can be done at this point. Besides, anyone who went to both weddings saw yours first and knows.

I could see if he was married BEFORE you, but his wedding is 7 months later. Congratulate them on their wedding and woo and ahh over the pictures.

Tons of people do tulle lighting with Christmas lights and tons of people wear mermaid dresses which are in style. Relax. Not everything is personal. I would not say anything bc you will sound petty and bratty.

If she stole your ideas and had their wedding before yours, I would be pissed and probably say something. However, your wedding is over. It is annoying but I wouldn't say anything. If people attended both weddings, the couple will deal with the embarrassment because it may be obvious they copied your ideas.

My FSIL is stealing every single idea I have had and her wedding is only 3 1/2 weeks after mine. I take it as a compliment and don't worry about it. As long as her wedding is after mine I don't care, if she moved her wedding up to before mine we would have an issue.

My FSIL is stealing every single idea I have had and her wedding is only 3 1/2 weeks after mine. I take it as a compliment and don't worry about it. As long as her wedding is after mine I don't care, if she moved her wedding up to before mine we would have an issue.

You can't do anything about them copying your wedding ideas. At least yours was before and not after. If they're not unique enough to come up with their own ideas then that's their fault. I have the same thing happening. My wedding is next May and my cousins wedding is March 2016. Everything I said that I wanted to do or was going to do his mom is going and telling him to do the same thing but there's nothing that can change them acting like that.

Agreed. If it was before you, I would be upset.

But it's not. It's after yours. and 7 months. Is it safe to assume that there are not a lot of overlapping guests since you are in different countries?

Honestly, take it as a form of flattery. It really doesn't matter what they copied and what they didn't. Your aunt probably thought it was beautiful at your wedding, and wanted to share that with your cousin.

I would also be upset if theirs was before yours and they stole all of your ideas. But let's be real- it has been 7 months, and you don't own the ideas that you used. Basically all of us on here are taking ideas from each other, the internet, pinterest... you name it. Plus, if there is any attendance overlap I am sure the guests will realize that it looks similar to yours and will know that they were impressed by how great your wedding turned out.

Just be flattered that they thought your wedding was beautiful and congratulate them on this special day!

Why do you care? Seriously.

Do you honesty think anyone is going to remember anything like that? I hardly remember what i saw last week.....

Unless you trademarked/copyrighted the design plans (which I doubt), you really have no say in what they do. Sure, be upset, but no one else will care as much as you and you'll grow resentful. I don't think you should be upset - they're not doing anything illegal, anything immoral, anything underhanded, and really nothing that affects you presently. Nothing in the world is unique - your ideas probably have been done before. I'd just let it go. They're not doing anything wrong.

Plus, their wedding is today. If you said something, what would that accomplish?

Seriously? How old are you, five? In that case you should get this reference, LET IT GOOOOO!!!

Everything you just mentioned is all over Pinterest. Grow up.

You shouldn't say anything to your cousin about it... You could talk to your aunt about it later if you want to. Maybe your aunt could have told you, but I don't think she needed to ask permission.

Who cares?? Sorry to be harsh but...how old are you? Seriously? You don't "own" the ideas and you are not the first to think of it, I'm sure. No one needs to ask you anything. Grow up! You are already married, almost a year.