Should I ask her as my bridesmaid?

Since you are covering the cost, she should wear what you purchased or pay for her own things. i think you are being very fair. My bridesmaids are paying for their own dresses.

If you're paying, then she wears what you buy.

She wears what you already bought or she can sit with the guests

The bm dress has been an issue for many people so you are not alone. There are a few ways of dealing with this depending on how flexible you and your bridesmaids are wiling to be. The bridesmaid you are referring to should firstly realize you are the bride therefore it needs to be your vision, your decision and secondly remember to be honored that you have included her and have offered to pay for the dress. I would first try and speak to her about your concerns, maybe even ask another bridesmaid or maid of honor to talk with her about it, if that doesn't change her attitude or mind you might be better off excusing her from her bridesmaid title. Another less confrontational option would be to try and return or sell the dresses and allow the bridesmaids to pick the best dress for their figure but in the same color. I hope it has helped, in the end it's a decision you will have to make but I wish you the best of luck and know that things get easier and the most important thing is you and your future husband and the happiness you will soon share!!

Well either she wear what that dress or she can cover the expense of another one. I don't see how nor why would she even get upset in the first place. It's not like it's coming out of her pocket. If she was that concern about how it looked she should of said something when u asked. Now either she wear what u ordered, buy something else or just don't be in the wedding.

I agree. If you are paying, she should wear what you pick.

Cut her.

You already bought the dress she agreed on. She can wear it or buy her own dress. Although I think it would be weird to have one bridesmaid in a different dress so she should suck it up.

You asked for everyone's input first which I think it's fair and are paying yourself. If you want everyone to match I would tell her that's the dresses you all picked together. I agree that it might look a little odd for her to wear a different dress. Everyone might think she is the MOH

Ditto. Drop her like it's hot if she won't wear what she agreed on/you paid for.

Agreed!

You shouldn't have had her as a BM really. She's a classmate and sounds like a bitch.

Tell her she wears the dress, buys her own or she is out-period.

I agree with the ladies , drop this dead weight. Seems like she's trying to bump herself up to MOH. and your paying. If she cant wear the dress, try for a refund. Failing that see if you can find another girl to wear the dress, you don't need this drama right now. Good luck.

If you cover *her* dress you should cover everyone's. And it's your wedding. Don't change dresses to appease ONE bridesmaid. Just no.

What everyone else said. She wears her free dress with a smile on her face, or she's out.

She is only going to get more difficult. I'd say tell her to wear the dress or leave.

The only response from her should be "Thank you SO much again for covering the dress cost!" This day isn't about her. She can not look perfect for one day. Especially when you are paying her way. She is way too greedy and selfish.