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Just Said Yes February 2018

Should a bride tell bridesmaids how to do their makeup?

Rachel0968, on September 23, 2017 at 12:45 AM

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I haven't heard of this before, so I want to hear other opinions. My sister and I are in a wedding for a good friend. We generally wear makeup daily, and are good about knowing what looks good on us. It's not too dark or anything, but we do wear false eyelashes for special occasions. We're Asian so...

I haven't heard of this before, so I want to hear other opinions. My sister and I are in a wedding for a good friend. We generally wear makeup daily, and are good about knowing what looks good on us. It's not too dark or anything, but we do wear false eyelashes for special occasions. We're Asian so without the false eyelashes you can't see our eyes much haha. They're not huge fake ones. Our friend, the bride, wears no makeup ever, she's just not girly and not into it. She's planning to wear light concealer and mascara for the wedding and that's it. Here's the thing: her mother told my sister and I that we shouldn't wear much eye makeup and no false lashes because the bride isn't. We felt defensive about that because wearing or not wearing makeup feels like a personal preference. Is she right in asking us to do this?? I know we're not gonna look out of place next to the bride cuz we have plenty of pics in the past where my sister and I are wearing makeup and she's not.

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  • Cassidy
    VIP October 2017
    Cassidy ·
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    It's definitely wrong for her mom to dictate that. But I sort of agree with her. Ask the bride how she feels- I personally agree with the mom and think you'd be upstaging the bride. But it's your decision.

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  • Ms.Fox
    VIP May 2018
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    Ridiculous. I love my makeup and lashes. That would basically be a personal jab to me. I would show up with my lovely long lashes and that would be that. I would also, if I were you, talk to the bride. She may not be aware of what her controlling mother is saying!

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  • Future Mrs.N
    Super November 2018
    Future Mrs.N ·
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    Unless the bride wants to oay for professional make up they dont get a say. In this case it is not within anyones right to tell you not to wear make up at all.

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  • Newnoakua
    Expert June 2018
    Newnoakua ·
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    She has no say on how you do your makeup, and if the bride isn't paying neither does she. Wear what makes you comfortable, and let the bride tell her mother to butt out.

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  • K
    Beginner June 2020
    Kenyatta ·
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    I had a meeting with my bridal party. I let them know what I am expecting of them. I told them about makeup, their dress, shoes & etc. I let them kno it's my day and if they can't abide then I understand. At the meeting is their time to decide if that can move forward or resign...SIMPLE!

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
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    If the bride personally does not care I'd do what makes you comfortable. I think the mother was a bit out of place telling you how you should do your makeup

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  • Natalie
    VIP June 2017
    Natalie ·
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    'At the meeting is their time to decide if that can move forward or resign...SIMPLE!'

    You could always just fire them. Best to be fair though and provide a verbal and written warning first or they could sue you for unfair dismissal.

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