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Just Said Yes February 2018

Should a bride tell bridesmaids how to do their makeup?

Rachel0968, on September 23, 2017 at 12:45 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 28

I haven't heard of this before, so I want to hear other opinions. My sister and I are in a wedding for a good friend. We generally wear makeup daily, and are good about knowing what looks good on us. It's not too dark or anything, but we do wear false eyelashes for special occasions. We're Asian so without the false eyelashes you can't see our eyes much haha. They're not huge fake ones. Our friend, the bride, wears no makeup ever, she's just not girly and not into it. She's planning to wear light concealer and mascara for the wedding and that's it. Here's the thing: her mother told my sister and I that we shouldn't wear much eye makeup and no false lashes because the bride isn't. We felt defensive about that because wearing or not wearing makeup feels like a personal preference. Is she right in asking us to do this?? I know we're not gonna look out of place next to the bride cuz we have plenty of pics in the past where my sister and I are wearing makeup and she's not.

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Latest activity by Natalie, on September 27, 2017 at 12:59 AM
  • RealLindseyO
    Master October 2017
    RealLindseyO ·
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    So her mother said you shouldn't wear makeup? She doesn't get a say in what the bridesmaids do.

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  • R
    Just Said Yes February 2018
    Rachel0968 ·
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    She said we shouldn't wear *much* eye makeup and for sure no false lashes.

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  • Natalie
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    Natalie ·
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    This bride should be telling her mum to butt out. Unless the bride is getting her mum to do the dirty work and tell you how you can and can't have your make up?

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  • R
    Just Said Yes February 2018
    Rachel0968 ·
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    Sorry guys I can't figure out how to respond to individual comments. I honestly am 100% sure the bride doesn't care what we do with our makeup UNLESS her mom has convinced her that it's bad for us to wear false lashes.

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  • Natalie
    VIP June 2017
    Natalie ·
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    Well then she needs to tell her mum that this is none of her business.

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  • R
    Just Said Yes February 2018
    Rachel0968 ·
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    I don't think the bride knows her mom talked to us about it..... I haven't told her yet.

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  • Frida
    Devoted July 2018
    Frida ·
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    Talk to your friend about her mom. She should not have asked in the first place. It's personal preference just like her daughter choosing not to wear makeup on her wedding.

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  • Danielle
    Devoted June 2018
    Danielle ·
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    Do what's comfortable for you and rock those falsies!

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  • FutureMrsHancock
    Savvy July 2018
    FutureMrsHancock ·
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    Eeek I thought my comment posted... damn it!

    I think it is wrong since more people are into wearing makeup and dolling up you can't tell some one whos everyday look is that way not to do it cuz bride doesn't that being said it might be fun to get bride a mini makeover to see if she would like it (makeup) or consider it?

    P.s. I'm Asian with great lashes lol ETA: spelling / clarity

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  • FutureMrsHancock
    Savvy July 2018
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    P.s.s welcome to ww hun

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  • kirackle
    Super September 2017
    kirackle ·
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    Have you talked to the bride about your concerns for her not wearing makeup? I know it is considered rude by some to tell people to wear makeup, but how you look in photographs is vastly different than everyday appearance. Every no makeup bride I know has worn makeup for their wedding or truly regretted the photos. As a good friend, I would want my BMs to tell me this kindly. But regardless, the mom shouldn't be telling you what you can't wear. There are posts on here all the time harping on brides dictating hair/tattoos for BMs and the same holds for personal makeup routines in my book.

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  • Bride2B
    Expert June 2018
    Bride2B ·
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    I would want my girls to look however they feel most beautiful and confident. Like you said, you're not planning on doing any "crazy" makeup so it shouldn't matter.

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  • Jessica
    Super April 2018
    Jessica ·
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    I think it's definitely wrong for her mom to say anything to you, but I'd ask your friend what she thought about makeup looks... She will probably say to just wear whatever makes you feel best.

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  • FutureMrs.D
    Dedicated October 2017
    FutureMrs.D ·
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    My girls have asked me how do you want your HMU on the day...... until then I didn't know I was suppose to care. I told my girls to look pretty. What does the bride say? The mom can say what she wants but it's up to the bride. Be beautiful girl!

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  • K squared
    Super October 2017
    K squared ·
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    I'm not telling my bridesmaids how to wear their hair or do their makeup. We're all going through the same hair/mua, so I figure they'll tell her what they like and she'll do her magic. Honestly though , I can see my mom trying to tell my bridesmaids how to do their makeup. (My mom wanted to pick fh's and I first dance) I would hope they'd just tell me so I could deal with it.

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  • Vanessa
    Devoted September 2017
    Vanessa ·
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    I'm a bride that doesn't wear makeup much do mine will be minimal and most of my bridesmaids wear it daily. One actually plans on wearing false lashes honestly I could care less as long as they're comfortable. They wanted me to pick their hairstyle and makeup but I didn't because etiquette says no pay no say. I told them they all have different styles so they choose what they want. I wouldn't listen to the mother just the bride if anything I would suggest to ask her if she is okay with you deciding your makeup for the day.

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  • WED18
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    WED18 ·
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    It's obvious mom doesn't want her daughter to be upstaged on her big day but it's up to you and your sister if you choose to honor her request or not.

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  • KatieMBY
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    KatieMBY ·
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    Girlfriend...if you're not paying for your makeup and she's not paying for it, you show up with the makeup that makes you comfortable. No one else has the right to tell you what to do with your face, TBH.

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  • KemmyG
    Expert July 2017
    KemmyG ·
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    If the bride truly doesn't care then I wouldn't either. It's her wedding, not her moms

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  • Mj
    Devoted June 2019
    Mj ·
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    The MOB should not be telling you how to wear your makeup. Simple as that.

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