Shortened/nickname vs full name for wedding ceremony??

What does HE want to be called during the ceremony? Go with that. If he wants to use his nickname, that that's what you should use.

Also, I'm pretty sure the woman's name is always supposed to go first. (IDK?) We put my name first on the invitations.

Go with your original plan. The brides name is supposed to be first for everything before the ceremony, everything after the ceremony the grooms name comes first. As for the nickname, if it's what you both want just go for it. My FH goes by his middle name and that's what he wants used in the ceremony. We all know him by his middle name and it would be weird to say otherwise.

We go by shortened versions of our legal names, and did so for the ceremony.

First off, the bride's name goes first. So, your invitations are not wrong.

Second off, I would just make sure with your officiant that there is no legal requirement to use his full name (which I doubt), and if not, let your FH pick what he wants to use for the ceremony.

Third off, I feel like she is wayyyy too invested in this. I'm guessing she picked the name Candido for a reason, but jeez-- he just doesn't use it anymore-- get over it, lady! I would leave this decision completely up to your FH, and if she hounds you about it, then you can just say "that's what *he* wanted to use for the ceremony".

If you can, I would stay consistent with what you have already chose, which seems like that is what he wants and you already have your programs. Me and my family call FH by his shortened name, his family does legal name, and his friends use last name. For all wedding things, we will go by his legal name and hopefully I remember to use it during our vows

I agree with Barbara, make sure you can use his nickname while reciting the vows. I ALWAYS call my FH Jim (I call him James in jest sometimes), and I've never heard anyone else call him James, but for everything ceremony-related, he's asked to be referred to as James - invites, programs, during the ceremony, but I think after, like during the reception, we can go back to informal.

I have always know my fh by his shortened name. But his family usually sells him by his full name. For the ceremony we plan to switch back and forth between both names. And for all the paper stuff, I created a wedding logo with our names and date that has his short name, but his full name is written out elsewhere.

FH and I always go by our shortened names (Chris and Maggie) but our invitations say our full, legal names...and that will be the only time they are used. For the ceremony I want to use the shortened ones, rather than the long ones (I hate mine)

For almost everything, my FW and I go by ... Drumroll ... Babz and Bre. Lol. But all of our wedding stuff will be as Barbara and Brianna. Speaking of which, does anyone know the etiquette for two brides, as far as which name goes first? I've been putting my name first because I'm doing most of the planning (and I'm more feminine, and I get the impression FW prefers that I be "the bride" and she simply be "my future wife".)

Go with your original plan and what he wants to go as. if everyone knows him as dido and that's what he likes to go by... then that's fine.

had a similar discussion with FH... his name is joshua, but like every other joshua out there, goes by josh. i asked him what his preference was for the ceremony and invitations and what not. he said he didn't really care. he'd go by either. some guys actually want to go by their full legal name for such an important moment or event, some just really don't care. on the STD's and invitations i used joshua. i felt like it was more formal. but for everything else it's josh. he's just always josh.

Oh, and like others said, your name is supposed to go first on the invite. you're the bride. etiquette says youre listed first. so she can get over that. lol.