Short Engagement Judgment

Our engagement is 7 months when we get married. If you can afford your wedding that quickly there isn’t a problem. If people asked why so quickly I told them because that’s what we want. I didn’t feel any need to explain myself.

View Quoted Comment Yeah you're right. There's really no need to explain ourselves, there's just always that awkward moment after somebody makes that comment. But I guess that's on them, not me. Thank you for your response!

If that happened to me, I would just smile and say that's nice, but we are happy to get married this summer, and move the conversation to something else.

From what my aunts tell me, engagements were frequently only months long back in the day. I know it's hard but ignore those who are rude enough to comment. I'd respond, "Thanks for your opinion, but FH and I don't agree with it."

Good luck with planning!

One thing I've learned is you don't owe anyone an explanation for your decisions. Be confident in your choices.

It's really nobody's business when you're getting married. You set a date and that's it! People will always talk about other people's lives, don't let that affect you and enjoy your beautiful day ❤

Thank you all 💖 I appreciate it

Were on the opposite end of the spectrum having over a 2 year engagement. Don't let these people get to you. Just smile and say we are ready now and it's what works best for us and our lives and then walk away. You don't have to explain anything to them.

Got engaged last month and getting married in July. People mostly wait so long because of financial reasons. If you have the money to wed go ahead. You don't owe anyone an explanation

We have a generally short engagement too. I've had to laugh off a lot of, "what's the rush??" *glance down at my stomach* questions. People will always judge but pay no mind to them. Do whatever makes you and FH happy!

Thank you guys! You all have good points.

I'm 23, DH is 24, and we were engaged for three weeks before we got married at the courthouse! Talk about a short engagement.

Luckily both of our families are very supportive of us and never said anything negative (that got back to us at least). He's military and we have also been together for a very long time beforehand so a lot of people understood.

What I found the most annoying was that people not quite as close to us kept asking if I was pregnant. There's nothing wrong if that's what people having going on, but it wasn't the case for us.

Don't humor the people who are rude about it, you don't owe anyone anything!

People are ridiculous. Ours will be just under 9 months, and it feels like way too much time. You do you!

Ours was barely 2 months. We didn't have any negativity about it. But I'm also 44 so people were probably wondering if I would ever get married.

Haters gonna hate! its really no ones business when you choose to get married
We are date twins too!

Our enagement will be 8 months. We are slightly older than your FH (both 26) but we didn’t see the point in waiting a long time to get married. I was nervous because we didn’t date even a year before getting engaged that people would think we were rushing things. Luckily we haven’t encountered too many awkward comments. There will always be those that judge you, what matters is that you and your FH are happy and ready to enter into marriage.

I don’t think that’s too short, almost all of my close friends have had short engagements I feel like the freak with the 12 month engagement😂. I was in the weddings of three my bridesmaids and their engagements were 10 weeks, 4 months, and 6 months and it was totally what was right for them. People need to mind their own business.

We were going to have a year long engagement and it ended up being 2yrs and 2 months. But we are the same age as you guys (22&25) and people are always judging us on everything. Buying a home, getting pets, getting married young, planning on having kids in a year or 2 all of this is mostly because we’re young, but also people care about us, I would think about it in terms of they probably care, but also that it’s your life. Tell them thank you for their suggestions but you guys have discussed it and this is your choice.


Im not saying it’s ok for people to say that stuff regardless of age and trust me I get it me & FH moved away in & with eachother after 2 months. And got engaged after being together 8 days less than a year. So I totally get the “quick” aspect that life sometimes has

Our engagement was only six months and we got engaged after six months of dating. We’re a little older (27 and 33) but we noticed most the comments we got that weren’t so nice came from people who didn’t know us. Our families were all very respectful of our decision and even had positive things to say, “yeah, I knew I wanted to marry my wife at six months, I don’t think it’s a big deal.” People we didn’t know as well would ask why we were moving so fast, if I had another little surprise on the way, etc. I would just tell people, “this is what we’ve chosen to do,” “we want a summer wedding,” “we want to get married before I move.” I did snap once. a coworker tried to tell me I’d never survive because I didn’t know him that well. I asked her how well she knew her first husband - oops. My feelings are you don’t owe anyone an explanation. And even though you’re younger, as long as you’re confident, that’s all that matters.

I’m getting married in 3 weeks, and we got engaged in October! Around 6.5 months for us! It can definitely be done! The only thing that was an “issue” was finding a venue that wasn’t already booked, but surprisingly, with our date, which is also around prom time, we didn’t have an issue! We nailed down our venue within the first week of being engaged, which was definitely helpful! Open communication with each other on what needs to get done and when was the key!