You're going to have to talk to your priest about it. Catholic weddings are actually not really a wedding as we think of them. They're part of sacramental and religious life so it's set what needs to be done during it. Typically you can opt for either just the sacrament or a full mass. Although in my area some priests only allow a full mass.
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We had a meeting with him yesterday he said we can just have the sacrament if that’s what we want.
A Catholic wedding ceremony is about 30-40 minutes, with Eucharist it's less than an hour. My Church did not do Eucharist as this would be inappropriate to distribute to me, but not to my non-Catholic husband seated beside me.
Aww wedding planning is stressful and if you are prone to anxiety it can definitely exacerbate it. Just try to take some to time for yourself to relax and spend some time with your sweetie not doing anything wedding relating. I find my partner really grounds me I don't really get very anxious but when I get a little over worried or frustrated about wedding stuff he almost always manages to make me feel better with a simple hug or sweet smile. In the end the important thing is the love and connection you share with your partner
I am a devout Roman Catholic and active at church in the choir and as a soloist. A Catholic Nuptial Mass is usually about an hour, give or take 10 minutes either way. I've been to many and they rarely even go an hour. Masses in my parish run about 40-45 minutes and the ceremony itself is about 10 minutes. A wedding ceremony, on the other hand, not at Mass, usually takes about 30 minutes. It also depends on how many attendants you have, how much music, etc. If you have anxiety issues, talk to the priest and ask him to keep it brief. I've seen priests who linger over every phrase, who sing along with the soloist, and those who can say Mass inside of 30 minutes.
I am a devout Catholic and active in my parish. Catholic weddings truly are weddings in every sense, but you are correct - Holy Matrimony is a Sacrament (when it's between 2 Catholics or a Catholic and another baptized Christian). But it's not all that "set" although there are a few requirements: a priest must officiate and in a church, the couple must meet with the priest a year in advance to provide details and documentation (baptism records, family records to assure they're not close relatives, annulment documentation, etc.), and any Pre-Cana marriage preparation. And, although there are hundreds of appropriate hymns that can be used in the ceremony, there are a few restrictions.
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I’m confused, ceremonies are absolutely set. There are specific things that must take place during a ceremony and it does effect the timing for a ceremony even if those pieces (such as hymns) allow for variations. While there can be small deviations Catholic sacraments follow a clear structure. I’m sure as a practicing Catholic you are aware of that. Catholic practices are ritualistic, and standardized for the most part compared to a secular or different denominational ceremony. She wasn’t asking about pre-canna or leading up to the day. She was asking about restricting the timing of the ceremony. Some priests allow a truncated ceremony for just the sacrament. Some priests require a full mass. Depends on their leanings. This has been my experience in multiple parishes as the vast majority of my family across multiple states are practicing. Regardless the best thing for the OP to have done is to talk to her priest, I’m sure she already has in this case given the age of the post.