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krysten
Devoted August 2011

She said "I only date men on death row because I know where they are every night"

krysten, on October 22, 2010 at 12:36 AM Posted in Planning 0 12

As she sits in the living room of her neat terraced home, Rachael Ford knows what people will think of her.

"I know because I've thought the same things myself about Death Row wives. What possesses a woman to marry a man waiting to be executed?" And she says: "I'm no Death Row groupie. The last thing I imagined would happen when I started writing to Tony was that I would actually marry him.

"But as soon as I started reading about him, I knew we were so alike. I researched his case extensively before asking if there was anything I could do."

An articulate mother of one, Rachael doesn't fit in to the mad, sad or desperate category. And her petite frame belies a steely resolve which helps in the face of vilification from pro-death penalty campaigners in America.

Rachael's husband, Tony Egbuna Ford, a convicted murderer, is on Death Row in Texas, the state that executes more prisoners than any other in America.

For the past 13 years he has protested his innocence from a tiny cell furnished with a metal bunk and toilet. He is locked up for 23 hours a day.

Doreen Lioy also falls into the same category.

Her wish was also granted when she became the wife of Richard Ramirez, the night stalker who murdered 13 people in the late 1980's by raiding their homes at night.

After an 11-year courtship in which she wrote him 75 letters in prison, he accepted her proposal. He was attracted to her, one of her friends said on her wedding day, because she said she was a virgin.

"Satanists don't wear gold," he reportedly told her when they discussed wedding bands.

In fact, she isn't alone. 'Serial Killer Groupies' write letters of adoration daily to Death Row inmates from all over the world, some of them 20 handwritten pages long.

Richard Allen Davis, the man who kidnapped 12-year-old Polly Klaas from her Petaluma home in 1993 and killed her probably gets more mail than most.

Richard Ramirez has women virtually throwing themselves at him despite the fact he is already married.

Scott Peterson, the man who was convicted of murdering his wife and unborn child, had been on Death Row barely an hour when the first marriage proposal arrived from a woman who wants to be the new Mrs. Scott Peterson.

Three dozen phone calls came in to the warden's office on Peterson's first day at his new home in San Quentin State Prison -- women were pleading for his mailing address, and another smitten 18-year-old gave him his 2nd marriage prospoal.

12 Comments

Latest activity by Jane, on August 3, 2018 at 11:14 PM
  • Sara
    Super February 2012
    Sara ·
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    Wow! Gives a whole new meaning to wanting the bad boy.

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  • krysten
    Devoted August 2011
    krysten ·
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    It just really makes me wonder what goes through peoples heads. I guess they no longer see them as a "threat" since they are behind bars. I wonder what they will do once they are excuted.

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  • Sara
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    It's definately a reflection of some sort of mental problem with the girls. Maybe the result of abuse or something

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  • Kirsty
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    Imo the wardens shouldn't be allowed to pass these sorts of letters onto people convicted of such serious crimes, unless they are from people they already know

    being "hero worshipped" hardly makes someone realise what they've done is wrong

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  • Lilly
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    Im originally from Norther CA and remember both the Polly Klass and Lacy Petersen cases from the news coverage during the investigations. Makes me sick to my stomach that these men are in prison and women knowing full well what they did are sending them love letters.

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  • STB Mrs. Potts
    VIP September 2011
    STB Mrs. Potts ·
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    WOW. That is nuts. What do these girls think? Its ok he killed this little girl, because he loves me? Weird.

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  • Meghan
    Master August 2011
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    Well, at least you know that he understands 'committment'

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  • Katie
    Expert November 2011
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    That is really messed up. Why would a woman want to marry a man that she wont be able to have a real life with?! The fact that they are on death row and they are allowing them to get married is wrong. Writing letters isn't a way to get to know a man either. He can sound one way on paper and being totally different in real life.

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  • The O-fficial MrsJoseph!
    Master September 2010
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    Wow. Seriously, wow

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  • Tracy
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    WOW... really???

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  • R
    Just Said Yes October 2011
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    Why don't you do some educated research before you post your tabloid judgments on a whole group of women who have precious little in common with each other. Do you assume all women married to soldiers are one and the same, or all women married to men who are white are the same. No two people are the same no matter if they share one solitary thing in common. And that is a valuable thing to take into a marriage - an open mind and heart. I would never judge a woman in my position until you too have had to deal with the backward Texas justice system and seen the huge disparities in justice for whites and non whites. Judges,and jurors alike have expressed their deep concern about my husband's case and their potentially fatal errors in judgment. But instead of educate yourself you sit in judgment of me - a complete stranger you know only a five second snippet of tabloid information about. Yes I stand by my husband - not to know where he is at night - because I love him. Period.

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  • J
    Just Said Yes July 2020
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    People should stop being judgmental. There are a lot of people on death row who aren't monsters. There are some who, even I'll admit, ARE, but there are a lot who made huge mistakes at one time, while caught up in drugs, heavy drinking, bad influences, etc. Not making excuses for them, just saying that they have done what all of us have done (made mistakes), just to a greater and more consequential degree. They still have humanity, despite their huge mistake. I have written one guy for 3.5 years who was on death row, and he was recently executed. It's why I'm reading articles now. He and I were not romantically involved in the slightest. In fact, most of the time I wrote him, I was in a relationship with another person who did not feel threatened by the person I was writing, nor did the person I was writing mind that I had a boyfriend. He wanted a good friend, and I was just that. Visited him in person several times, traded long letters, sent him money because I care, helped him, his supporters, and his general team...to try to get clemency. We were never more than friends, although he is an attractive person. It just didn't happen to be a situation where we "fell in love" -- circumstances weren't right. I was in a relationship with someone in the free world most of the time, and I was in a certain emotional place even when I wasn't in a relationship. I was never abused as a child, but I can see falling for someone on death row, even though it has not happened to me. They're people, like you're people. There are people in this world who were born into really good circumstances of wealth, privilege, and a set path of the good life, and at the other end there are people in this world who are born into poverty, violence, and a set path of a criminal life. There's a lot in between too, but if you don't think some people have a lot of strikes against them as a matter of their upbringing, surroundings, and influences, you are foolish (but I can tell most of you are foolish anyway.) Just stop judging. I became extremely good friends with a death row inmate, and would like to be friends with others. I'm not gonna lie, I do not want to befriend a man who beat an elderly woman to death with a hammer, no matter how long ago it was. But believe me, there are a lot of guys on death row whose crimes are not like that. Look into it.

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