She got a $10,000 bridesmaid dress

She is going to look ridiculous trying to take the spotlight from you. Don't worry she'll be getting the side eye not you. Just let her wear it and look like a total child who can't let someone else have the spotlight for the day.

WOW. Speechless. I have heard of BMs wanting to wear overly lavish gowns, but never at a cost of $10k! Holy crap!! That is insane. What kind of dress is this...is it covered in crystals? She sounds like a drama queen and an attention seeker. Sing a song at the reception?? Eye roll. Do you have a pic of this dress? Sadly, I don't know that you can ask her not to wear it at this point. You DID give free rein for them to wear anything and the dress has been purchased. I agree with pp though, she will look ridiculous!

That is the ridiculous thing I ever heard. Please post a picture of the dress, I have to see it.

Let her TRY to upstage you. Everyone who sees it will do a collective eye roll. I balk at people on SYTTD getting anything over $6k. Like....WHY? Some people just loooooove attention but trust me, it will all be focused on you that day and she will be swallowing a $10k dress for really no reason. LOL.

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It's... not how I would spend 10K.

I really want to see the dress now. Unfortunately it's a repeated issue within in laws. This case is different because she was able to drop 10k on a dress. Wish her luck and god bless her sour heart

(Here's the picture of the dress from the link for those who are curious -- took me a few attempts to get the page to load)

I agree with above posters. She is going to look RIDICULOUS. She will not be stealing your spotlight in any way -- people are going to be chortling and rolling their eyes. If you wanted to "play" her back, tell her you love the dress so much you're thinking about getting one for all your bridesmaids. See if she decides to wear it after that.

Ummm...what even is that? I could pay off 5% of my student loans with that dress...

Ah, it's a Monique Lhuillier. The price tag makes more sense now. Don't worry, she will not upstage you in that!

Just looking at the picture, that dress doesn't look like it should be costing thousands of dollars. It seems like a rip off. The fabric just looks like basic mesh.

And you aren't you going to show us a picture!?!

I wouldn’t worry about it because quite honestly that dress is pretty ugly. Plus no one will know that it cost $10k unless she tells people and even if she does she’ll just look foolish for bragging about it.

Well first off is she wanta to waste $10k thats her deal. But you all need to pit your foot down with Sil & Mil, this ia your wedding not the SIL show. If she ia grown and throwing tantrums clearly she needs a time out. And if that gives MIL the sadz too bad. Sil is choosing to act like a 3 yr old, treat her like one. MIL can give Sil a cookie and she'll feel better.

Can Sil actually sing?? Or is the DJ going to *forget* that part of the program...

* Oh and a grown woman crying that somwhow you are ruining your own wedding is emotional manipulation, and you've all taught them that all they need to do is "cry" to Fh and OP gets back in line and allowes SIL\MIL to do whatever the heck they want. this is a dangerous pattern.

Who is paying for all of this? She shouldn’t be singing or inviting friends if you aren’t interested. Is she married? Single? Very strange behavior. I would let the dress go because it’s just ridiculous. But to be her other actions are over the top.

And what does your FI say about this? He’s going to let his mom and sister run the show at the expense of his future wife? Sounds like you two need a long talk about boundaries.

First of all what the hell is that 😂😂😂😂😂😂 let her wear it! That thing is so ugly I would want her to wear it so everyone can mock her and make fun of her!! Second! Put her walking down the isle first that way everyone can get their laughs in and forget about her and focus on you!

View Quoted Comment I honestly don't see how this dress can cost $10! At least it's in black...not as standout-ish.

I don't think she'll outshine you in that, but if it's important to you then it's important. Don't let ANYONE, even if they're family, make this more stressful than it should be. You can do it!

There is no way she is going to outside the waiters let alone you in that dress. Let her wear it but don't let her get away with the other stuff. She gets a plus one who ever that can be her choice, date or friend but 1. Its you and FH day not the "whatever her name is day". Singing... Good grief!