Settle the spat....do I really need ushers?!?

I agree, i dont feel that ushers are necessary. i understand that it can help but seems like too much to worry about cause people can know how to seat their own tush down. are the grooms men going to walk the bridesmaids down the aisle? if not have them double as the ushers and have your groom seat his mom and thats the official start of the ceremony

I'm not having ushers.

Nope I don't think see adults know how to seat themselves...

@Brittany I like the FH seating his mom part! If I went with that, who would seat my mom? (I am completely clueless when it comes to the order of a wedding ceremony, so someone please fill me in. lol)

I am not going to have ushers seat people. It will be pretty much just sit where you want. But i will have my stepdad walk down my mom & then my uncle walk my gma down and gpa and gma walk down (since they will be in the first row.

That way they have a little part in the wedding, since i am very close with them all.

Ushers are pointless unless you have people that you want to involve in the wedding, but not enough to give them a real role.

Cool Natasha! Now I just need to figure out how I'll get my mom seated....could I have my male BM do it? At least we only have to worry about his mom and my mom....his grandparents won't be there, and my only grandparent attending will be playing the organ, so that's another reason I don't think I need official 'ushers'.

Also, what are you guys doing for readings? Is it weird to go ahead and have one of the GM or the BMs do the reading instead of adding another person?

At my moms wedding my mom had her brother (one of the GM) walk my gma down and then he walked right back so he could walk me down. So anyone really could walk your mom down. One of the GM or a male family member who you or your mom are close to. Least thats what i think.

No. it's a great way to involve guests that aren't in your bridal party for one reason or another, but you don't need them.

We had ushers not to seat, but to hand out programs, as a way to involve people in the wedding. Honestly, recoils have put the programs in a basket by the door, but we wanted to give the ushers a role.

Technically your groomsman are supposed to be your ushers unless, like everyone else said, if you want to involve other family members or friends.

You could have your father seat your mother and then go back to you then have your FH seat his mom. i hadnt really thought who was going to seat my mom.. shes not really "tradtional" like i am

I don't think ushers are neccesary, but most people don't file in and out of pews every Sunday.

It is a good way to honor people that you are not having in the bridal party though.

We are not having ushers, we asked FH twin step-brothers, but they didn't want to do it (they are very shy!). My sister is my matron of honor so her husband will walk my mother down the aisle.

I had two ushers. Like @fun bride T they just passed out programs and helped people if they needed it. It was a great way for my two cousins to be involved without having to pay for the tuxes since they couldn't afford it.

We'll have ushers (younger cousins from both sides). They'll stand at the ends of pews that still have seats left to encourage guests to sit up front and fill them in. It'll serve a few purposes: 1- Our pics will look better if people aren't scattered all over the place, 2- It'll be easy to ensure that only close family sits in the first two rows and 3- it will keep people off the center isle, where I plan to have silk petals along the sides. Totally up to you and what you want, but if it isn't practical, skip it!

I think the position of usher is created to include people in the wedding party that didnt make the cut for groomsman....like the sibling you don't really like, when the other sibling is a groomsman

I think ushers are nice to have, but not a must. I think most people realize that the grooms side is the right, and the brides side is on the left.

I won't go into the usher details. However, I will say that the groom's mother is NOT the last to be seated....it is the bride's mother!!!! And...the bride's mother is first to be escorted out, then the groom's mother. Talk to your officiant or day-of coordinator about the details of escorting/ushering.(and yes, the groomsmen can be ushers)

You NEED only 2 people. Your spouse and someone to marry you! Everything and everyone else is a luxury and completely up to each couple.