sending timely Thank You notes

I would be upset. I'm not one to get worked up over every little etiquette rule because I understand not every bride found WW to keep them in check but thank you cards in my opinion should be non-negotiable. I'd rather get a plain card that simply said "thanks for coming to our wedding and for the gift" , even if they clearly mass-printed a generic thank you on them, than nothing at all. I went to a wedding last October that was very unclassy and awkward but the thing that really sent me over the edge was that the couple never sent us a thank you note, especially since we were one of few guests that got them a gift (I know this because a. the gift table only had about 5 gifts total and b. it was my hubby's coworker and he told him that they got about 10 gifts total). They didn't get us a gift for our wedding but I made the point of getting them a thank you card within a few days. We got all of ours out within 3 weeks.

JanuaryWedding - Yes, 3 months max from the wedding is the guideline for sending thank you notes and no it is not too long. I have never had an issue receiving a TY note 3 months after a wedding. When you consider most people take a honeymoon, that's 1-2 weeks right there. Plus a couple weeks to order cards or wait for a photo to include from the photographer. That's one month.

From there, depending on guest count, it can take two months to write them all. Some people have 200 notes to write. Writing personal, thoughtful notes takes time. You don't just say "thanks for your gift". At 5 notes per day x 5 days per week, it will take 8 weeks to write 200. It's not that everyone WILL take 3 months, some people have smaller wedding or write them faster, but it can take that long and I don't see a problem with that timeline.

ETA - 3 months is for the wedding, not shower. shower notes should go out quicker because the guest list is way smaller.

@Kathryn, the last wedding I went to, I received a generic thank you card in the mail..just a picutre of the bride and groom with a thank you on there. It didnt offend me that they didn't personalize it, but just wondering how people would feel abou those versus not receiving one at all?

^^ that is horrible. Thank you notes should always be handwritten and personal, not pre-printed and generic. It is pathetic that so many brides are so lazy that they can't be bothered to properly thank guests. You should be offended.

I've been to 11 weddings (not including my own) since May 2012. I think we got thank-yous from half. I was especially pissed that I never got thanked for the most recent 2 weddings because I hosted bachelorette parties for them. I'll keep that in mind when they have kids.

My absolute BIGGEST pet peeve! We are having roughly 400 guests and FH and I set a deadline to have ALL thank yous out within 3 weeks. People take an entire day to celebrate your marriage, and buy you a gift the least you can do is send them a personal thank you for that (not one of those pre-printed thank yous). I am very old fashioned for my age (22), and it's disappointing how much our society lacks thank you etiquette. I'm a full time student and work full time, with our own home and dog and we will manage to get them out... priorities people

We went to a wedding in April. We just recently received the thank you card.

Per Emily Post:

Contrary to popular myth, the happy couple does not have a year’s grace period. All thank you notes should be written within three months of the receipt of the gift. Ideally, a response should be written on the day you receive a wedding gift. If that’s not possible, set a daily goal. It’s a lot easier to write three or four notes a day than to have to write a hundred notes in a month after the wedding!

I get my Thank You cards out ASAP. I feel bad bc I'm just now writing my cards for my bachelorette that was last Saturday. (I know most people would think that's ok but I like to be prompt!) I had all my Thank you cards sent the Tuesday after my Sunday shower. As far as wedding gifts, our thank you's will be postcards with a wedding picture on them, so we will have to wait a tad longer for those to get printed and mailed to us then we can send them out!

My family would kill me if I don't send out thank you cards. When I graduated high school and didn't write thank you cards to the people who came to my party my family was SO mad. At that time I was an 18 year old in a toxic relationship so my head wasn't on straight AT ALL but I feel guilty for that even now. I can't imagine not sending out thank you cards for a wedding. People spend a lot of time and money on YOUR big day. The least you can do is send them a card to say thanks. People are ridiculous though.

A lot of family and friends were actually surprised I wrote thank you notes for my shower and I had sooooooooo many people mention to me that my notes were so sweet because I personalized them and wrote a real note inside instead of just 'Thanks for coming/ thanks for the gift. Love, Stacie'. People remember those things about you so even though it takes forever, it's worth the time and effort.