Sending out invitations

I am sending out save the dates next weekend and invitations around June

Now is definitely too soon. You can wait till end of May/beginning of June to send them out. My sister-in-law and her husband got married Labor Day weekend 2017, and I think we got their invite around Memorial Day.

View Quoted Comment This is a great idea! I didn’t do it…but I wish I had now lol. I like it when ppl think outside the box 🙌🏻 I’m not a fan of the that “ppl can’t plan that far in advance” argument (really?) & this covers the “ppl will forget” argument…lol.

View Quoted Comment We have a guest list with lots of different locales (domestic & international) so we needed to get it out of the way ahead of time! Thank you 😊

Maybe a happy medium would be sending save the dates and/or your wedding website with ALL the details including hotel blocks and locations etc. a lot of my guests were interested in booking their hotel room after they got the save the date

Hi Elise!


We’re sending ours out in May and asking our guests to RSVP by July. Do you have a date that you’d like people to RSVP by in mind? Also, when do your vendors need to know the final guest count? I think taking all of these into consideration you can definitely send out invites as early as you’d like!

All of our friends make plans very fast and vacation often . I see that most people said 6-8 weeks that’s not enough time at ALL ! If someone is planning a large trip it may take 3 months of planning and saving . Do what you want it’s your wedding . We sent our our invites last week. We also have a destination wedding 🤷🏻‍♀️

I am sending mine out the end of February with an RSVP for May 1st. I have so many out of state guests that have said they need extra time to prepare as well as my caterer said they need the headcount due to constant price changes. I still feel it's a bit early but I'm not sure what else to do. I understand sometimes things happen but when someone wants me to drive 10 hours away to a wedding, I need a few months to prepare.

Hi there…..We are getting married 9/17/22. I could never wait till 6-8 weeks before the wedding to mail the invitations. We need to provide head counts a few months in advance and I would go crazy cutting things that close with mail service delays etc. it 2 months before we received 2 save the dates back for the wrong address. our save the dates went out last sept and our invitations are going out the end of March with an RSVP by 6/1/22 (we created an email just for rsvp) people should know if they can come at that point. 98% of our guest are all out of town and with fall season being peek in VT people need to book rooms like now! If they wait til august they would never find a place to stay! I say the earlier the better and previous brides I spoke to agree you need get a rough idea oh head count as soon as you can. To coordinate everything!! Good luck ❤️

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I agree with Sara. I am also a September wedding. We sent our Save the Dates in September and plan to send invites beginning of June. I also disagree with a B list being frowned upon. These are people who would not necessarily expect to be invited, and being invited even at the "last minute" is a nice treat.

I’m getting married 9/17/22. We are sending save the dates at the end of the month. An actual invitation is too early. I plan to send those 6-8 weeks out to align with the headcount my various vendors need. People have your date and location from your save the dates and will save the date if the plan on attending. People know their exact plans closer to the actual date and will RSVP accordingly.

View Quoted Comment I am also getting married 9/17/2022. We aren't doing save the dates and only invitations. We also set up a Facebook page. 2 of my vendors need headcount by mid April. The whole invite timeline thing has me stressed!

My wedding is also in Sept and my invites are done. We aren’t requesting RSVPs but so many keep asking “When is it?” Or saying in a sarcastic way “Thanks for the invite!”


I’m ready to send them via text/email later this week. I’m wondering if I do that, should I send it a 2nd time 3mos prior as a reminder? Seems tacky.

View Quoted Comment I agree w you! All of the planning needs headcounts so waiting for RSVPs is irrelevant. You plan for a certain number and go w it then if less or more attend then it is what it is. No stress!

Wedding is Sept. 2, '22. I was thinking about sending out the Invitations maybe mid June and asking for RSVP's by Aug. 1st.

View Quoted Comment Send save the dates now (which is 6 months out) via phone call, text, email, word of mouth. Then send invitations at 6-8 weeks before the wedding. Any earlier and people will lose and forget the information and they can’t commit that early. Rsvps would be due 3-4 weeks ahead with a week buffer to contact any stray replies and finalize the headcount for the caterer and escort cards.

I'm confused by everyone saying that 6 weeks is too far ahead to plan. I have plans for every weekend until July. If someone sent me an invitation for June I'd have to decline. You sent save the dates though, so I don't think you have to worry too much about people making plans for your date.