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Send Save the Dates, or just Invitations?

Austyn, on October 9, 2019 at 11:49 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 5

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My fiancé and I are both from Oregon, but live in Montana for his job. Our wedding is in Oregon, and we don't have a ton of extra room at our venue for our friends that live in Montana. We are planning on having some sort of reception/get together with all of them after the wedding just to celebrate. Super casual and we most likely won't even call it a reception. We are thinking a celebratory golf tournament (FH is a golf pro) with drinks and dinner afterwards. My question is this- should we send Save The Dates to EVERYONE, or just the people that we are inviting to the actual wedding? if we do send them to everyone, should we include some sort of "we'd love for you to celebrate with us in Oregon, but we'll party when we get back" card? Or would we be better off just sending an invitation to whatever we decide to do in Montana?

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Latest activity by Kari, on October 11, 2019 at 5:13 PM

Legend July 2019
MrsD · on October 9, 2019 at 12:07 PM
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Do you plan on inviting all your Montana guests to the Oregon wedding too?
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on October 9, 2019 at 12:07 PM
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Just send save the dates for the wedding. What you are hosting in Montana is not a wedding, so that wouldn't require save the dates.
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Master July 2018
Mcskipper · on October 9, 2019 at 3:23 PM
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Everyone who receives a Save the Date NEEDS to be invited to the wedding!!! That’s why they’re saving the date. If I received a save the date for an out of state wedding, I’d start making travel arrangements. They’re really more of a pre-invite than an announcement that you’re getting married .
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Clíodhna · on October 11, 2019 at 7:50 AM
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Hey there, Austyn!
As the PPs mentioned, anyone who receives a save the date will receive an invitation to the wedding also. If you plan on inviting all your Montana friends to the wedding in Oregon, you can send them save the dates. If they’re not going to receive and invitation to the Oregon wedding, this may get confusing for them. I hope this makes sense!
This WeddingWire article has more information on save the dates, you may find it helpful - The Ultimate Guide to Save-the-Dates.
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Kari · on October 11, 2019 at 5:13 PM
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You can send different memos for your party. Last year summer we went to six wedding/marriage celebrations and only three of them were actual ceremonies followed by receptions. The rest were parties for the new couple that happened days or even months after or before the actual wedding ceremony, ranging from a backyard potluck to a party on the family estate with music, catered food, gift table, speeches, etc. All of these couples chose to have really small/intimate ceremonies primarily with family and then have a much bigger party to celebrate with friends and extended family after (or before). Frankly the formalities of a "Save the Date" followed by a formal "Invitation" are pretty traditional, and you can do whatever you want as long you are clear about what it is you are doing!
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