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Layla

Self-conscious about my dress

Layla, on November 12, 2021 at 11:27 AM Posted in Planning 0 8

I love my dress, but my mom keeps making comments about how big it is and it's making me feel self-conscious that I'm going to look ridiculous at my wedding. I've always wanted to wear a ball gown at my wedding, and I bought a petticoat thing on Amazon to 'poof' the skirt out to make it more of a ballgown than how it lays normally. At the alterations appointment a few days ago I mentioned the petticoat and was about to get it and try it with the dress, and my mom said absolutely not, I should not make it any bigger than it already is, and that my fiance is a 'little guy' and he's going to be swallowed/overpowered by me. He isn't little, he's taller than me and athletic.

It's going to be a winter micro-wedding in the mountains, we're only having 20 people total. I love weddings so I'm planning it like a full wedding, with a florist, photographer, great food and a wedding cake. Do you think my mom is right/that I'm going to look out of place? Not that there's anything I can do at this point, but just looking for some reassurance or opinions.

This is the dress (not my photo) for reference:

Self-conscious about my dress 1


8 Comments

Latest activity by Courtney, on November 15, 2021 at 1:36 PM
  • Jessi
    Super October 2022
    Jessi ·
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    Girl, don't invite your mom to any more alterations appointments and wear that petticoat! Call your seamstress to see if you can stop in again if she hasn't started on it already and get measured again with it on if that's what you want. This is your day and if you love the idea of a big, poofy dress then you should have it!

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  • Sharonda
    Super January 2021
    Sharonda ·
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    Don’t let your mom get into your head. I had a micro wedding with all of the bells and whistles! My husband and I pulled out all of the stops just like there were 200 people there instead of the 20 attendees, and we and our guests had an awesome time — wouldn’t change it for the world!! By the way, your dress is gorgeous … if you want to wear your petticoat, wear it!!!
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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I think you should stop inviting your mom to appointments or discussing wedding stuff with her. Trust yourself, first and foremost.

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  • Samantha
    Super August 2022
    Samantha ·
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    I agree with everyone else. You do whatever you want to do. This dress is stunning, and I think the design of the lace makes it very nature-inspired in the best way and that it will look perfect in the mountains. If you want the extra volume, lean hard into the extra volume!

    I think explaining to your mom how you feel and that you personally don't feel it will overpower FH would be a good step. You can also lay it on thick and throw around "the petticoat makes me feel more bridal" or something! I've "it makes me feel more bridal" is working wonders on my own mom 😅

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  • A
    Expert September 2022
    Allie ·
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    I agree with others. This is your dress for your wedding to your FS! You should wear exactly the dress you love, with any and all petticoats you want!!

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  • M
    Master October 2021
    Mrs.a ·
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    Nope nope nope! She is making you feel self conscious and insecure. It’s time to tell her to keep her opinions to herself and uninvite her from any future appointments.
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  • Samantha
    Super May 2022
    Samantha ·
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    I would make sure to get with your seamstress asap, because if you decide to wear the petticoat (which you should) it will probably change the length she needs to make the dress

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  • Courtney
    Dedicated July 2021
    Courtney ·
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    I’m over 40 and there were only 5 people at my wedding in glacier National park. I still wore a ball gown. Tell mom this is your look and you don’t want to hear another word about it!
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