Self centered family members

No, because I don't expect my family members to plan my wedding. FW and I are planning it since we're the ones getting married and we're the ones who chose to have a wedding.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. It’s hard when living with the person. I have a hard time putting myself first. Thanks again.

I have people telling me what I should do because it's what they want/would have wanted at their own wedding. And it's ALWAYS the ones who ask about the wedding who try to tell me what I need to do.

Her talking about her phantom wedding as you plan a real one most likely stems from a little jealousy. I have a few friends who started “future wedding” Pinterest boards as soon as I started planning. As much as I’m sure your sister is happy for you, someone getting married always causes other people to reevaluate where they are in their own life. It can be annoying but I try to think of it as flattering, they’re admiring where you are in your life, and at the end of the day, you’re the one that’s going to have an actual real wedding not a speculative Pinterest board. Try not to let it get you down!

My maid of honor started doing this. She's not even in a relationship right now. She keeps it low-key, like loving a dress I rejected for myself, or preferring different themes over what I've chosen. I think it's because this is my second go around and she has yet to have her first. She's not jealous, but she does wish someone would lock her down.

So you're saying somebody is being self centered because theyre not thinking about you?
I know women who have planned their weddings their entire life. I looked at wedding stuff every now and then even when I was single. What your family members do with their lives should have zero effect on how you plan your wedding.
A lot of us are planning things on our own, if we can all do it, then so can you ☺

My fiancé and I are planning our wedding so we haven't had this problem. I hope all goes well.

View Quoted Comment Well now. That was a very constructive and thoughtful answer to the poster’s question, thank you.. 😕

I’ve had my bridesmaid do this from time to time, by the way. Our families are very excited for us and have offered their help and support for the big day, thank god . Bridesmaid in question will mention how she’ll have roses instead of peonies for her wedding and how she would prefer this. Since she’s my best friend I just mess with her and jokingly sigh and mention “hello woman let’s plan MY wedding first and then when it’s yours I’ll help you work on yours!!” And she kind of gets the hint lol I know how you feel but just play it off. I think to fantasize about your day just comes kinna natural-some people just don’t catch themselves and get a little carried away. Don’t let it bug you

I will tell you, unfortunally when you get engaged or even married, people tend to get very jealous. So that may be whats going on with your sister! Sad, but its true sometimes! Im sorry your dealing with it! I just wouldnt count on her for helping with anything, and then if she asks let her know how you feel!

My MOH/BFF did this some when I first got engaged. She wasn't engaged yet. It was kind of frustrating at times, because I rarely bring up my wedding without being asked. She would ask and then start talking about her future wedding. I just let it go and reminded myself that her last relationship was toxic and she was finally in a healthy, happy relationship and the wedding excitement was probably just rubbing off on her. It's hard sometimes to look at wedding stuff and not picture yourself getting married.

YEAH! My cousin is in my wedding as we were looking at bridesmaids dresses, she scheduled her appointment for her wedding dress. Which kinda miffed me because we ended up having the same consultant, so the next time I went in for my dress appt the girl was like “oooh did you see your cousins dress? It’s so gorgeous and she’s having this added and this done” blah blah blah!

View Quoted Comment Well to be fair this was written as if the OP deserves all the attention in the world and sister should only focus on her and her upcoming wedding. That’s not fair to the sister or anyone else really.

OP should share less with the sister and keep planning to just those who are paying for it. In doing so she will be less annoyed.

View Quoted Comment But if cousin is getting married too why couldn’t she schedule her appt while in store? Try not to let cousin get to you or it will be a long road.

View Quoted Comment True,thank you.💕

View Quoted Comment Meee!!! too!!! I’m just such a lay back person. It’s not even time for me plan. I’m getting, so many negative opinions. It’s true, when the mom gets crazy and controlling.

View Quoted Comment Omg my sister is in a in a toxic relationship. I’ll let it be for her. Yes, my family brings up mine without me bringing it up.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I’ll do that then.

I try not to. Thank you😊

My sister got hitched in a shotgun wedding 6 years ago and is trying to coerce me into planning my wedding to be what she wanted hers to be. I've just...stopped talking to her at all about it.