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Arielle
Expert November 2016

Self Centered Bridesmaid

Arielle, on March 23, 2016 at 1:21 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 24

Hi ladies, I know that there has been lots of drama and lots of people leaving these forums, but I hope that I can still get some reactions and advice. This Sunday, I went with my four bridesmaids to buy BM dresses (along with my mom and sister, who is my MOH). I love all of my bridesmaids dearly,...

Hi ladies, I know that there has been lots of drama and lots of people leaving these forums, but I hope that I can still get some reactions and advice. This Sunday, I went with my four bridesmaids to buy BM dresses (along with my mom and sister, who is my MOH). I love all of my bridesmaids dearly, but one girl was SO obnoxious the entire time and really sort of ruined the whole experience for me. She got married on NYE (I was her BM) and spent the entire time at brunch talking about herself, her wedding, her upcoming honeymoon, her her her and barely letting anyone talk about anything else. Then, when we went to the dress shop, we were looking at the racks and trying to see what dresses they had, when she drags me into the changing room with her, strips, and has me helping her get into and out of dresses - not letting me be with the rest of the group or look around. She then found a dress she liked and refused to try on more, while still demanding all my attention. Cont. in comments...

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  • SoonToBeStoddie
    Super June 2016
    SoonToBeStoddie ·
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    I wouldn't say anything. People react to close friends getting engaged/married very differently, and if this is how she normally acts, you may risk hurting the friendship long term if you say something. Just try and take it with a grain of salt, and enjoy those that are celebrating you.

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  • OG Sarah
    Master September 2017
    OG Sarah ·
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    Um Jahtoya...you made a BM guidebook?

    That is a horrendous idea.

    Also, Arielle I agree with VM. I can imagine that any conversation with her probably wouldn't end well.

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  • Arielle
    Expert November 2016
    Arielle ·
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    Thanks all, I agree a conversation with her would end very badly. She is a dear friend of mine despite her shortcomings in "letting others be in the spotlight" department, and I wouldn't want to hurt our relationship. I am talking to my other bridesmaid, our mutual best friend from college, about it and hopefully she will keep an eye on this "problem" BM at the shower and bachelorette.

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  • Derrian
    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Derrian ·
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    It’s 2019 and I’m dealing with this now! A bridesmaid seems to want to “show off” and that’s pissing me off because it seems like she’s trying to outdo the other bridesmaids and even me. It’s ridiculous!
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