Secret Gown Shopping

One of the best things I did during wedding planning was taking a solo day for dress shopping. I picked out about 6-8 dresses (tried on lots more) that I knew l liked and was ok with picking between. I had the consultant write down those dresses, then made an appointment for one week later and invited my mom and gma. That way, I was only showing them dresses that I knew I already liked and they still got to come shopping.

*I think they'd be more hurt if they knew your MOH went with you. I would highly recommend going solo - it was an awesome experience.

First and foremost, congratulations on being a strong warrior and survivor. I know this is a wedding website but let's CELEBRATE this as your health and happiness are equally important! Our battles leave us with all kinds of scars, and many medical procedures result in weight gain. Sometimes it's temporary, and other times it is just one of the permanent side effects of being a survivor. Love your new body, because from what I've known, you've experienced the Hellfire and you're ready to make a new life with someone who loves you NOW and wants to love you ALWAYS AND ALL WAYS.

I want you to have a positive experience with your new body. I also know, from personal experience, that, many times, weddings become political and are about about as easy to regulate as herding cats. Talk with your mom about your feelings. If she's not on board with the new you, she'd better get there or she shouldn't go with you. I'm team bride on this one. That said, I don't think you should do it in secret. She may be more supportive than you're perceiving.

Hugs

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Thank you, but I know that won't fly! They'll be indignant that I don't want them there when I start trying on dresses the FIRST DAY!

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Any idea if these are american made and sizing?

View Quoted Comment I hear you on that, my family is the same way lol

View Quoted Comment Hi Ashly:

Yes. I ordered a size up from my actual size. It’s easier and more affordable to have it taken in than let out.

I went in my own to find what I liked
and what looks good on me. I will be going with my MOH next week and I’m so glad I scouted dresses alone first. Don’t feel bad about doing what you feel is best for you. You will be beautiful and your future hubby will love anything you walk down that aisle in. Good luck and positive vibes sweetie💕

Don’t do it, I wouldn’t want to take the chance of hurting my mother or grandmothers feelings.