Second Wedding

I think you should do what feels right to you. My FI and I are getting married for the 2nd time and never had a great wedding. We're doing a sand ceremony at the beach and the kids will pour the sand in a large vase (symbol of family unity) to make them part of the ceremonies as well as giving them each a necklace that has a family crest (I had a craftsman make it in sterling silver) and my FI's older daughter will do a reading at the ceremony. You should dance with your dad and then in the middle of the song, dance with both your boys at the same time. Do this after your first dance. There is no real etiquette any more. You may want to wear ivory instead of white, but that's up to you. Enjoy your day and good luck. here's some of my favorite sites

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We have many 2nd time brides here, so I'm sure you will get enough input on the topic. But mostly etiquette has to do with how you treat your guests. If you want a dance with your dad, why not? Also, you will find many great ways to include the kids in the ceremony.

Congrats and happy planning!

Im on my 4th (and last!) This wedding is costing us twice the amount of money that all my wedding combine.. There is no right or wrong. Its your day do it up as special as you like.

I am also getting married a 2nd time. FH had a huge wedding (300+guests) at his first. My first was 12 family members in a small chapel, and a dinner at a restaurant afterwards. So technically this is my first big wedding.

I didn't want a big to-do this go around, but FH was insistent on me getting "my big moment". I honestly don't know what the protocol for a 2nd wedding is either. I still feel weird doing all of this, but everyone who knows we're planning a wedding doesn't say anything negative.

So I say do what your heart tells you to do. And pay attention to your budget too.

4th wedding, holy crapola, Stacie. You may hold the record. LOL!

@Rebecca, I think it would be great to dance with your Dad, again, and your sons. Go for it!

I, too, am a widow and FH is divorced. He's done the DW before, my 1st wedding was a big church ceremony and small reception that was pretty boring. Neither of us have had a big fun reception before...so we are doing a simple outdoor ceremony and big reception with DJ and the works. My only son will escort me down the isle. FH preferred a small bridal party with only his best friend as BM. So my DIL is my MOH. Our two 2 yr old grandson's as ring bearers and my 3 yr old niece is flower girl. His 3 children will be greeters / attendants and help usher guests to seats. My parents are no longer living, so no father/daughter dance for me, but FH will dance with his daughter. We will also have the mother / son dance...me with my son, FH with his mom.

I don't know that there is any different etiquette for 2nd weddings, just whatever you're comfortable with. We're doing a sort of Wings of Love theme with 2 doves in a white decorative cage by the gazebo in honor of my parents, then cont

My fiancee' and I are both second time around both widowers, so with that said, we are planing the type of wedding we want, FH had a big wedding first time around but I didn't so really I wanted the dress and the wedding so that is what we are doing and loving it, our parents are both gone so I won't get to do that part but I have a family member to walk me down the aisle, I think it would be nice for you to get to dance with your Dad again, make the day about what the two of you want and enjoy every minute, keep us informed, you can always ask me questions I never mind!

A dove release as part of our ceremony. Both of our families are pretty big photo buffs so we are having a photo booth at the reception and a cartoon artist friend of ours is doing caricatures for everyone.

I've found that most any question or concern you could ever have can be answered and clarified here just by posting in this forum. Lots of helpful idea's come from this forum.

Happy planning

Congratulations.

For a second wedding, you can do as much or as little as you want. It is a second wedding for both FH and I, though each of us have been divorced for over 20 years. We are not doing parents dances (though we will do an anniversary dance that highlights how long parents have been married), but he will have a dance with his daugter, 23. She is also doing a reading during the ceremony.

2nd Wedding for both of us - We both had Church/Reception weddings the first time but this time i'm planning it more about how we want it not how my Mother wanted it. I'm wearing pink and having a small bridal party BM MOH and GM and BM - for us it's all about having fun and i'm enjoying the day. This forum has been a godsend for inspiration and help. Enjoy your planning and whatever you want for your 2nd wedding is fine, my Dad has passed but if he was still here i would definitely do a Father/Daughter dance. After all it's my first wedding with my new Hubby 2 be so do whatever makes you both happy, my Son is walking me down the wise and his son is Bm so it's a nice way to unite us

Everything you're planning is perfectly fine--except for claiming that what your FI had before wasn't a "real" wedding. (That part is insulting to those who chose intimate weddings, home weddings, courthouse weddings, and other small but definitely real weddings.) But otherwise, you can do anything in a second wedding that you could do at a first one. In fact, I think second weddings are often more fun, because the couple is old enough to make their own choices, instead of feeling bound by tradition or what their parents will think.