Second Wedding with Kids

My children will be 11 and 13 when we get married. My daughter who will be 11 will be a junior Bridesmaid and my son who will be 13 is walking my mom down the aisle. My son is on the auto-aim spectrum and doesn’t like to be the center of attention. He is more comfortable taking a less involved role in the wedding. It all depends on what you want for your big day.

Hi Stephanie! Welcome to WeddingWire and congrats on your engagement! Will your children have roles in your wedding or be part of your bridal party too?

I have two boys and they will be 12 and 14 on the big day. I asked them if they would walk me down the aisle and they both happily said yes! My soon to be step son will be 17. He is autistic and at this time says he doesnt want to attend which I am perfectly okay with. I did ask my FH that if he son wants to be there that I would love to have him hand us the rings.

This is both our second marriage and I will be 47 on the day. I think I am more relaxed this time around. I'm seeing it as a big party and can't wait to celebrate with all my family and friends. I'm doing everything as I want (with FH in agreement of course) and not being swayed by anyone else. Hell, the first time around I just went along with what my mom liked best as my wedding dress.

My daughters will be 21 and 18 when we get married. They will both be standing up as bridesmaids. My FH also has a daughter that will be 17 when we get married and is autistic but will not be at the wedding unfortunately. I am doing everything different this time around as my first marriage I was seven and a half months pregnant with my oldest daughter in an ugly maternity dress and we got married in my ex husbands parents living room. We never had a reception after I had our daughter nothing. So now I have a wonderful man that is allowing me to have the wedding of my dreams within reason. Really my only requests were to be in a beautiful bridal gown, have our girls there, have my dad give me away ( he wasnt there at my 1st wedding) and now that my dad is sick with cancer I've added that we have the wedding in FL due to my dad not being able to travel.

My dad will be walking me down the aisle for halfway and then my 14yo son the rest of the way. My 16 yo daughter will be maid of honor and his 17 yo daughter is a bridesmaid along with my sister. His 14 yo son will be standing up next to him. I can't wait. We have 4 teenagers amongst us so they are all included!

I have twin girls who will be junior bridesmaids and three other bridesmaids. It’s a second for me but first for him. We are absolutely catering this go round! My mom and Aunt who is always wedding coordinator did DIY food for my first wedding and they were both super stressed to the max! That’s the biggest change we really went with that I can think. The rest is pretty traditional. Congrats on the engagement! I’m certain both of our big days will only be better by having the kids a part of it!

The only thing different for me is that I will have my dad walk me down the aisle because he did not previously.

This was a second marriage for both of us. What did I do differently? Almost everything!

We wanted to keep the guest list small. Only the people that had truly loved and supported us throughout our relationship. We both had huge weddings the first time around to please our parents, who paid. It felt like a chore than a celebration. This time, it was all on us, which made life so much easier. We got married on the beach in California. I walked down the aisle alone, which I loved. My dad walked me down the first time, he was fine with being a guest this time. No father daughter/mother son dances. No bouquet/garter toss. We had a beautifully catered dinner on the balcony of our best friends beach house at sunset. We splurged on the photographer, food, wine and cake. We had an almost perfect day.

As far as children go, he has 2 boys (26 and 22) and 1 girl (16) and I have 3 boys (18, 13 & 11). His sons were groomsman and his daughter was my bridesmaids. My boys were supposed to be groomsman as well, until their jealous father talked them out of coming to our wedding. It could have been awful, but my husband, friends and family talked me off the ledge. It will always be like a piece of me was missing that day. But this was the one last way that my ex could hurt me, so he took advantage of it. I should have expected nothing less. We were going to do a sand ceremony, but we both agreed that we didn't want a jar of colored sand sitting around the house after the wedding, so we didn't do a ceremony with the kids. We did a wine ceremony for just the two of us.

Best of luck in your planning. I hope your day turns out beautifully!

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I have 3 (14,12,10) children he has a 20 year old son. My girls will bridesmaids and we will be doing the sand with my kids. His son does not want to participate as he has his own family. My two younger children will cello during the ceremony. I can’t wait 😊

Great discussion!!
So my FH has 5 kids (3 boys 2 girls- by our wedding they will be ****)
We were not planning on a bridal party at all- just a friend as our witness. We - FH and I- both agreed this was the way to go but now I am wondering do we have a candle or sand ceremony with all 7 of us? I think its a little different since they are older then a lot of the kid mentioned in the previous posts.

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Love the cello idea!

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Your day sounds so lovely! I'm definitely in the "almost everything is different" category, too. Huge, very expensive, fancy hotel wedding in Chicago that our parents' paid for vs. an intimate (less than 30), party-like restaurant affair that we are paying for ourselves. This time I have kids who will be the only members of our wedding party and we're thinking of including a family handfasting into the ceremony.