Second wedding big or small?

No. It's not selfish. Have the wedding you want but just host your guests properly.

Not at all!! Do what you guys want to do.

Nope, this is my second but his first. I wanted to just go away and elope but he wants the whole thing so it's turned into a larger wedding. I still wish we could have just gone on vacation and come home married though.

I am having a larger second wedding at 60... only because it is my fiancé's first. =-) It is what he wants

I would so prefer a small wedding. I am sure yours will be wonderful. enjoy

I had the same idea... But he wants family there, which I understand. I just dont want things to get to big and that can happen very easily

Have the wedding you want guest count wise! Just remember to treat your guests well. Are you keeping it small because it's what you envision as a perfect celebration or because of societal pressure to keep things small because of the second marriage? I think it's wrong to deprive yourself of any celebration/joy because it's a second marriage. Wear the dress/veil/have the party you want. Small weddings are so beautiful though.

Small outdoor fall wedding with close family and friends. I wanted that with the first one but that didnt happen lol. We are so laid back and simple in our everyday life, I want our wedding to reflect that

Thank you all for your input... So glad I found WW

A small wedding is in no way selfish. While saying that I don't think you should limit yourself to a small wedding just because it is a second wedding for the both of you. If you want a small intimate wedding go for it. If you want a big lavish wedding then go for it. What ever size makes the two of you happy is what is best for you both.

Small weddings are not selfish. What is selfish is people complaining about the couple of honor having one.

My fiancé & I are in the same boat. We're having our closest friends & family, yet still the guest list easily topped 50.

Have the wedding you envision- dress & all. Best wishes :-)

Not selfish at all, especially if it's what you both want. Go for it!

It's not selfish at all. I think that it is very important for you and your FH to have a wedding that is meaningful for both of you. Don't feel bad at all about doing something different then what everyone else wants you to do.

No. We had 7 guests and I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

Doesn't matter if it is your first or tenth....do what you feel comfortable with and can afford. This is our second and we are have less than 40. Only immediate family as that is what we want. It is your day so what you want is all that matters.

Nope!! As long as you both agree, go for it!!

Not selfish at all!!

I'm another one who would have loved to do that since it's my second go-round...but it's FH's first and he wanted at least SOME bells and whistles!!

Not at all selfish. It's your day. I am actually doing the opposite of my first wedding and going big

Not at all!!! Every one of my officiants will say that they LOVE our small weddings. They can be as elegant, exciting and celebratory as big weddings. It really depends on what works for you, and I don't think that depends on first, second, third.....it's more dependant on your personal style and your enthusiasm for spending giant gobs of money, lol...

The demand for smaller weddings has been so strong in my area, home of the 200.00 plate, that we are constantly referring our smaller restaurants and venues.

Go for it. Do exactly what you what to do and enjoy your day. Congratulations!

That sounds very romantic and meaningful. As long as you host everyone appropriately, I think you're just fine