Second Time Brides/grooms?

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I'm so sorry to hear about your father.

This was the second marriage for both myself and my husband. First for me was small by normal standards, large for what I wanted (about 35 people). Father walked me down the aisle, we had a reception at the local park in a pavilion type setting. His first was a normal wedding, large families on both sides, normal traditions, etc.

Our wedding was an elopement at the local Mayor's office. Mayor's staff were the witnesses. No registry, no reception, no anything but the two of us. It was perfect!

This will be a second wedding for both of us. My first was a pretty traditional wedding, about 150 people, and my step-dad walked me down the aisle, as my dad and I were estranged. My FH's first wedding was quite small and in his parent's backyard. We are planning a fairly large party this time, 200+ guests, and I plan to have my adult son walk me down the aisle. I figure my step-dad already "gave me away" once, and my dad has since passed. I also plan to ask my daughter to be my maid of honor

As for a registry, we absolutely do not need anything. We have combined 2 households plus some of the contents of his parent's house. I am undecided on whether to register or not, I know some people will ask, kind of tempted not to!

This is my second time getting married and my FH first time getting married.

My first wedding was eloped to the courthouse it was me and my ex husband nobody knew we were getting married at all. My parents both were livid. I wish I did include my family because my dad has passed away and this time around he will not be here to walk me down the aisle.

This is the second for both of us. My first wedding was small and my dad didn't make it. He feels strongly about wanting to walk me down the aisle, so that's what we're doing. If it weren't for that, I'd either walk myself or FH and I would have walked together.

We registered because I got the same reaction you did. We're not really expecting a lot, but we took it as an opportunity to upgrade some things, and there are several things we have planned to purchase afterward, if they're not gifted to us. We're not having a shower, but the links are on our wedding website.

My second, his first. I had a small backyard wedding and my brother gave me away. Now my son is 12 an he's walking me down and we're having a big wedding. Mostly because he's always dreamed of a big fancy wedding and I would have been just fine with a courthouse visit. Lol!

2nd marriage, 1st actual wedding! My older brother is giving me away. Father has never been in my life. Not really doing a registry as we have been together a long time and have a house, there will probably be a card box/honeymoon fund on a reception table. So excited! Congratulations to you!!

This is both of our second. No one is walking me down the aisle and we chose not to have a registry since we have been together 7 years and do not need anything. I have seen a lot of older couples doing Honeymoon Funds.

1) My dad passed away several years ago. I’m either going to walk myself down the aisle or have my older son with me.

2) We are struggling with what to do about a registry. We have very few needs (in fact after combining two households we are trying to get rid of stuff!). We really want to celebrate our time with our family and friends.

Travel funds would be awesome, but many people are spending $$$ just to attend so I’m just not feeling comfortable with it. I’d love to hear what others are doing.

Hi there! Third for me!!
Specific to your questions:
no one is giving me away. My groom and I will walk up to the minister together flanked my my 6 granddaughters. He adores these girls so much so he asked them if he could marry me! The walk will be short and the minister will ask “who presents this couple to be married today?” They will answer in unison, “we do” I found some great ideas in Pinterest on this topic.
We are not doing a registry lol we are still getting rid of duplicates after 3 years of living together! We are asking people to bring a picture they have of us with them (or either of us with them). We will have scrapbook paper there where they can write about that photo memory or any memory they have with us either as a couple or individually. The photos and memories will be make into a scrap book as their presence in our lives is their present to us.
If someone wants to do something specific we will do a fundraiser via Facebook for habitat for humanity.
Now we know some close family and friends want to still give something they are providing some services for the wedding. Our musicians, photographer and officiant are all giving of themselves for our day.

My 2nd marriage ( first one was secret sham in a court house when i was teen, nothing special)

His 1st and he wants the whole shabang

walking alone ( loner at heart )

no registry.... just hoping for /cards/donations for all the food and festivities... no pressure but nice to get back some money spent on a good time

Hi! This is my 2nd, his 1st. My dad is walking me down again and I'm good with that. With my first marriage, my ex didn't ask his permission and for my 2nd, my FH did and that was very meaningful to my dad. Believe me, my dad never forgot it. LOL!

My stepmom and sister insisted on throwing me a shower, even though we are more than set so we registered at Bed Bath, and Beyond for some replacement items. We also registered at Wanderable for our honeymoon. Those who have asked our preference, we did admit we'd rather have honeymoon money. Good luck!

So this is actually my 3rd wedding. His too. Kinda funny, my first marriage was my first husband's marriage, my 2nd husband was getting married for the 2nd time as well, and now my FH and I are both on our 3rd marriage. This is the last time I'll get married. 3rd time is the charm, right? lol

My first wedding was maybe 10-12 people gathered at a park and a small bbq at my aunt's house after. Not exactly what I wanted but we were young and planned on having a bigger wedding when we renewed our vows. No one walked me down the isle, it wasn't a big deal so we had no registry or anything like that. I don't even think we really got any gifts

My second wedding, I wanted my grandfather to walk me down but he recently passed away and my uncle was supposed to walk me down but he ended up in jail because of child support. So my ex husband's best friend and best man ended up walking me down the isle. We had a small registry, nothing big. I thought it was a nice wedding though, lots of fun, I felt amazing in my dress. I loved the way it turned out-I did/planned everything myself-from what our ordained friend said to decorations to anything and everything in between.

This wedding, my FH wants me to have the wedding of my dreams and I'm super excited. Neither of us have had a relaxing wedding or even been on a honeymoon. So this time we hired a wedding venue that has everything included and we're planning a honeymoon too. I'm having my son giving me away (my dad died when I was 5) and friends are asking us where we're going to register so I guess we'll figure that out soon. Lol

My husband was a second timer. We chose not to have a registry not because he'd already been married once but because we already had two established households and felt it wasn't necessary. However, just because this is your second time doesn't mean there isn't things you don't need. Perhaps a scaled down registry?

My stepdad walked me down the aisle when I got married in 2015. We are planning a vow renewal and he will be doing it again so I don't see anything wrong with that either.

This is a second marriage for both of us and we are doing it like it was our first because why not!!! Obviously we are older and much more aware of budget this time but still we are doing things that any 1st timers would do. I actually am having more fun with it this time around and less stressful. Answering your questions....

1. My dad walked me down the first time, and he will be walking be down this time. I think he is more about it this time, as my FH asked his permission and we go to lunch with my folks every weekend so they interact and my dad is getting to know him better. Where as with my first marriage my ex was always gone, made every excuse to avoid time with my folks, unless he didn't have to pay, and he never asked my dad for permission (which my dad mentioned a lot back then so I know it bugged him)

2. We aren't doing a registry either, we have pretty much everything we need and are already settled. Instead we are having a Honeyfund with different excursions for our honeymoon cruise should anyone want to get us a wedding gift.

The only issue I have had family wise is my grandma asked my mom if I would be having a white wedding as this was my second, mom told her "yes she is why wouldn't she". And I figure most of my family wont be attending this one, although most of them didn't attend the last one either. But it will be their loss as it will be an amazing time!

This is my second and FH's first marriage. My first one was a courthouse military elopement. My parents were not a fan to say the least but as someone stated before I "loved" him. Both my father and step father have passed, my mom has always filled both roles anyway and she will be walking me down the aisle. Again not as a "giving away" but as support.

Both of us have a house and lots of things, but we will be registering for updated things. I have flatware and cooking utensils and bake ware from when I went to college, so about 10 years old that I am going to register to replace. We've been talking about redoing our bathroom so towels and such as well. Not that we need anything, but since this is his first his family is very excited about all of the festivities.

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Like friends or family or both? I don't know how you could ever assume that you're invited to anyone's wedding. That's baffling. Would they get the hint if they don't receive an invitation or do you think they will show up anyway.

My second marriage, his third. He had a big wedding the first time and eloped the second time.

My first marriage we eloped and then we did a cheesy vow-renewal in Vegas for our 7th anniversary (we were married 13 years total). No one walked me down either time. I want my brother to walk me this time but he may still be out of state as he's in the Air Force.

We're not doing a registry. I have everything I need. I want people to just come and enjoy with us. A HoneyFund would be nice but I feel that goes against appropriate etiquette in my area.

Does anyone else feel like they just don't want to duplicate a thing from their first weddings? Like I feel like I don't want even a small reminder of those days.

This will be my 2nd and my fiance's first. Mine was a courthouse wedding and I'm glad cause since it ended, I didn't feel like I wasted money or anyone else's time. This time around, there will be a registry/honeymoon fund. As far as the aisle, I grew up with my step dad but now have a close relationship with my biological father so I'm thinking of having my step dad walk me the first half down and then my biological father or maybe for the father/daughter dance have it that way....maybe both. I haven't worked out the kinks yet lol.

Second here!

My first wedding was a church ceremony and very traditional....

We are doing a simple courthouse ceremony with only family attending and then a small party at my sisters garage with around 20 people in total invited (including family). No walking anyone down the aisle, and no registry. I am not even expecting any gifts at all to be honest lol