Christy
Dedicated September 2019

Second Time Brides/grooms?

Christy, on March 1, 2019 at 5:36 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 50
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Where are my second wedding club brides and grooms? I have a few items I'd love to talk through with someone in a similar situation as me! Top of mind:

1) Is anyone walking you down the aisle? I am extremely close to my family, but I don't really have a desire for my dad to walk me down the aisle....again. I feel like I'm, kind of, not his to "give away" anymore. I thought about having both of my parents walk me down, but I'm not sure the aisle will be wide enough. So...who then? What is anyone else doing?

2) Are you putting together a registry? I was against having one, but everyone I've talked to (close friends, family, etc.) has been pretty dumbfounded when I've suggested this. There's not of overlap between the two weddings (family and some close friends aside), so from their perspective, this is my first wedding. ....And regardless, people want to buy us gifts to help us celebrate. We've decided on doing a HoneyFund because we need absolutely nothing for our house - but curious as to what others are doing?

What questions do other second-time brides/grooms have?

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Latest activity by Holly, on August 1, 2019 at 11:19 AM
  • Future Mrs. Danger
    Expert November 2019
    Future Mrs. Danger ·
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    This will be my second marriage and his first.
    My dad will actually get to walk me down this time. The first time I eloped to Vegas giving my family in Europe a weeks notice. (No one was really happy about that lol and no one came either)
    So now, almost 20 years later, I am doing it again and this time with all the bells and whistles and a year and a half heads up on the wedding.
    As for the registry, we arent doing that either and arent even asking for gifts. With all of our family having to travel 1000s of miles we clearly stated their presence is their gift to us.


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  • J
    Just Said Yes December 2019
    Jillian ·
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    This is both my and my FH’s second marriage. I had a small wedding the first time where no one walked me down the aisle and my FH was married at the courthouse.

    We plan to walk down the aisle together holding hands. And we will be doing a small registry for those who prefer to give a more traditional gift in addition to a honey fund.
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  • Monica
    Devoted July 2020
    Monica ·
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    This will be our second marriage for the both of us. His first time, they had a small wedding ceremony. My first time was an elopement. This time will be a grand party! My dad will walk me down the aisle. I think we may do a small registry of upgrade items because we have everything we need already having consolidated two homes into one; will definitely do a Honeyfund toward purchasing perks for our honeymoon trip - ultimately we will let guests know their presence is the best gift of all and no presents are needed.
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  • Brooke
    Beginner May 2019
    Brooke ·
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    I am choosing my father to walk me down the aisle again. I feel that the support he has given me between my divorce & now has been amazing. This is a way to thank him for taking care of me & my two kids during this time.

    As far as bridal shower, gift registry, etc. We are doing it all because this is my second but his first. I dont want to take away the experience from his family who are excited for all the festivities. We are just keeping the lists more towards the house improvement side verse home goods since we already have a house full of stuff. I'm not sure if you have a Menards but they do gift registry.
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  • M
    Devoted July 2019
    Miranda ·
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    I'm undecided about asking my dad to walk me down the aisle. ... I feel like I'm not a child to be given away this time. But at the same time I love and respect my father more than anyone I know an think he would be hurt if I didnt ask.

    We are asking for no gifts so we will have no registry.
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  • Nona
    Expert November 2019
    Nona ·
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    This is mine and FH second marriage. My first marriage my parents didn’t really like him but put up with him cause I “loved” him. My FH and my parents are close and my parents adore him so it’s totally different than the first one. My dad is the one who brought up the discussion of who was walking me down the isle. At first I said I don’t know if I wanted anyone to walk me down the isle, maybe just to walk by myself. But my dad said you have to have someone walk you down. So right there I knew he wanted to, so I asked him and he said yes he would love to.
    As far a gift registry we are not doing one. We are having a very small intimate destination wedding. We have everything we need. But if someone ask what we want, we are going to ask for honeymoon funds.
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  • Nichole
    Savvy September 2019
    Nichole ·
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    This is both my second and his second marriage. I’m still going to have my dad walk me down the aisle again. We decided against registering for gifts as we already have everything we need.

    Our biggest hiccup is that people that were invited to our first weddings are just automatically assuming they are invited to this one. At this point I’m speechless. Not quite sure what to say. Any advice???
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  • T
    Dedicated October 2019
    Tracy ·
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    This is both mine and his 2nd marriages.
    As for someone walking me down the aisle, not sure yet since we’re in another state from my family. If I can get my Dad to come to Utah and put the family drama aside then maybe him. Possibly my stepDad or even my Uncle. If that all backfires, my son can do it.
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  • Kate
    Devoted September 2019
    Kate ·
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    As we've both been married before, we are doing away with a lot of the formalities, however I still want my father to walk me down the aisle if he is able (he has Parkinson's disease so it may be tough for him). I also have asked my son, who's 23 to walk with me...ideally I can have the 2 most important men in my life in either side of me.
    As for registering, we did a few things on Amazon for those who wish to give a physical gift, but we really don't want or need anything.
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  • C
    Dedicated January 2020
    Cora ·
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    It was my and my hisband’s second marriage. We walked together down the aisle. It was one of our favorite parts of the whole wedding Smiley smile Very symbolic to enter the marriage together.

    We absolutely did not have a registry or honey fund or anything like that. Just wanted our guests to enjoy and wish us well.
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  • Bre
    Dedicated September 2019
    Bre ·
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    This is both our second marriage.
    I will have my son and grandson walk me down the aisle. We are having a destination wedding and have everything we need including honeymoon.

    Have a registry for older family that insist they get us something just a few update items.
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  • Ana
    Devoted September 2019
    Ana ·
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    Hi
    my second wedding his first. I never had a weddin we went to the courthouse. My father will walk me down the aisle.
    We will not register.
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  • K
    Expert September 2019
    K.glass ·
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    This is my second wedding, his third. But my first wedding ( first time was a courthouse) and my dad was supposed to walk me down the sisle but he passed 2 weeks ago so a very close family friend is going to walk me in his honor, and give me away in memory of my parents.
    No we are not registering since we have everything we need and then some, combined 2 households and now have another house of stuff to fogure out what to do with.
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  • Tammy
    Just Said Yes May 2020
    Tammy ·
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    Second time for both of us.... I had my father walk me for the 1st and was thinking about having hin and my 12 yr old son walking me or possibly just my son. But I don't really see it as a "giving away," just a sweet tradition and show of support and love. As for the registry, we most likely won't do one since we pretty much have 2 of everything we need hahahaha

    Is anyone incorporating kiddos into their ceremony? He has 1 child and I have 2. My daughter is quite shy so I think we will mostly just have them up there with us, instead of a bridal party.
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  • Susan
    Expert August 2019
    Susan ·
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    This is mine and my FH’s second marriage. My
    first was at the courthouse and his first was a huge church wedding.

    We we are having a party and huge celebration and aren’t asking for gifts or registering.

    My dad passed away in 2006, but I’ll either have my brother or my son walk me down the aisle.
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  • Nicole
    Expert May 2019
    Nicole ·
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    My 2nd. His first. My first was a small wedding at home. My dad passed when I was young. So my son is actually walking me down.
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  • Jasmine
    Master August 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    For me it will be my 2nd and my fiance's 1st. My first one I did courthouse and this time around I'm doing a destination wedding. If my dad/step dad can both make it, that will be great but as long as one of them can make it, they'll be walking me down the aisle. If both can make it, they'll both be walking me half and half. We're not having a reception so i thought it would still be a nice way for them to both be included. I already have a couple registries created just nothing in the carts yet haha. Everything this time around feels right and I couldn't be happier!!

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  • Jennifer
    Savvy July 2019
    Jennifer ·
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    This is the 2nd wedding for both of us. We will be walking down the aisle together. Like you I didn’t feel like I needed to be “given away” again.
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  • Christy
    Dedicated September 2019
    Christy ·
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    Ummm that is crazy! I'm so sorry! I honestly have no good advice because I cannot imagine making the assumption that I was invited to someone's wedding for any reason, let alone this one!

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  • Christy
    Dedicated September 2019
    Christy ·
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    Miranda, this is really good advice regarding your father. I hadn't thought that he'd care either way, but after your comment, I'll definitely ask him directly instead of making the assumption!

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