Second time around brides - Does it feel different this time?

Third and does it ever--the best in the world!

Well my first time was done at the court house with JOP (I'm not saying anything bad about this I know a wedding is still a wedding lol) but I went to work that morning and he went to classes that night if that tells you anything lol

Second wedding and God yes. First one I was 19 and didn't plan any of it so it wasn't my vision but this one is. While it can be stressful at times I wouldn't change the person Im marrying

The night before my first wedding a friend asked if I was settling. I was pregnant and we were about to have a very rushed wedding. For the next 8 years after I knew all along it wasn't right. My x doesn't feel the same and thinks we were fine. Truth is I never loved him.

With my FH I cannot imagine a day without him. It is such a different feel and I know this one is for keeps!

No offense taken here. I was 18 yrs. old & pregnant at the justice of the peace wearing black stretch pants & a black Joker tee-shirt (from the batman movie in the late 80s) that read HAHAHAHAHA. Nothing special & definately not planned.

This time around has been very special. I get the whole experiance this time around. Part of what maturity brings, lol.

When I was married for the first time, I was probably too young to get married based on my life experiences at that time. My mother and grandmother planned a lot of it, and I tried to please everyone with my wedding. There was no way I had the guts to even consider backing out.

My sister says that when I came down the aisle, I broke out in blotchy hives all over my neck and chest. I obviously couldn't see it and they went away very quickly. Maybe it was a sign?

This time around, I still want to please people (some things never change) but am much truer to myself and really happy with my future husband.

No offense taken and makes 100% sense to me!

First time around XH and I had been together 8 years. We thought it was what our next step should be even though we couldn't get along.

This time.. everything is different. The love, friendship and partnership FH and I have is amazing. We don't have to constantly try to work together we just do! It's the best feeling EVER!

Oh God yes.

I remember thinking at the rehearsal dinner the first time, next time I will do this all different.

Sooo different this time. First wedding only happened because my ex and I had been together and engaged 5 years and I knew his sister was going to get engaged soon. I told him that if his sister got married before us, I was leaving. We picked a date 2 weeks later (that was how long it took to get the blood work completed so we could get a license). My wedding dress came from a low end store and we had a cold cut platter and a small cake at home after our JoP ceremony. Even as I was getting ready to say my vows, I knew I was making a mistake.

With this wedding, I am getting the wedding I hoped for but more importantly, I am getting a partner that understands me and is willing to put my needs first. He is everything my x couldn't (or wouldn't) be!

I'm not offended either!

I loved my first wedding and had no qualms with any of it. This time around I am much older (I was 24 the first time, I'll be 38 this time). I feel like those were pretty informative years. My outlook is different, maybe a little jaded, but definitely more down to earth. My FH and I will be together 9 years by the time we head down the aisle. Wedding planning for our DW is very relaxed, as opposed to planning every minute detail as I did the first time. We are paying for it ourselves with very little outside help, which really helps avoid the all the standard wedding stresses too!

All I can say is that I'm REALLY enjoying it this time around. It's different certainly, and maybe even better! :-)

Very different than the first time. So many things are different:

1. I've known my fiance for more than 5 months before we get married

2. I'm not pregnant 6 weeks after knowing him

3. I'm not planning a wedding in 3 days

4. I actually like and LOVE this guy

5. I'm wearing an actual wedding gown

6. I'm old enough, and SMART enough to know what I want this time. Not with the wedding but with the MARRIAGE

I'm with everyone else. It feels way different.

My first wedding was done a very tight budget but it was all about "the look". I was so disappointed in how it ended up, yet I was still ecstatic that I was actually getting married so it evened out.

This time around, I really don't care much about the look. This time is more about the people and sharing a good time and making memories together. His sister wants to be in charge of decorations. First wedding I would have freaked and it would've been a battle. Now, I really don't care how it's decorated as long as I know she is enjoying doing it. The smile on her proud face will erase any little detail I may not have chosen myself.

My 16 year old is wanting to get into event planning for a living. She is my coordinator. The food will be the same as if we were having a family gathering instead of fancy schmancy. My good friend is our officiator.

This time around it's actually LESS about me and I am so much more excited about that.

Not offended at all!

It's totally different! My first I was too young and should've known that when I had to be drunk to say my 'I do's' it was probably a bad sign. We stayed together 13 years, the last 5 were really bad.

This time just feels right. I can actually envision growing old with FH. We've been through our share of ups and downs in the 5 years we've been together but it always comes back to us just being together and not sweating the small stuff. It's just stuff and as long as we communicate and are respectful of each other it will work itself out. Everything just seems to be falling into place so easily (knock on wood) there have been no hassles with anything in planning our day.

Oh yes!!! My 1st wedding happened exactly 18 hrs after xh got back from Persian Gulf--IN A TORNADO. That should have been my first hint all was not well lol!!! It was not what i wanted but I was told its this or no wedding. Which was so sad. I always envisioned a Cinderella wedding, instead I got a dumpy wedding chapel and Chi Chi's restaurant for a reception. This time-it just feels right. I cant put my finger on it, but everything just feels so relaxed. My FH and I have the same tastes, and we are laid back so honestly even though we are having the wedding of our dreams neither one cares what happens as long as we say I Do! People keep asking arent you nervous but Im not I honestly am getting the one person that God kept for me and that's all that matters is that at the end of the day, Ill FINALLY marry the man that I should have 23Yrs ago!

Definitely not offended. It's no secret that I was married before.

It absolutely so much better this time. I was 22 the last time and should have known not to get married so young. This time everything just makes sense and everyone is happy for us.

Yes it does but in a different way.

I'm a Widow so this time around feels different but not because I regret or have bad feelings about the first one it is just that they are different.

I'm 30 not 17

And so my life is radically different

It just felt "right" this time. Even when we had arguments and disagree(d) over anything, wedding-related or not, I still never doubted that I was supposed to be with HIM.

I had a beautiful first wedding, but just didn't marry the right guy. There were signs of course, but I didn't recognize them as such.

@ We'llAlwaysHaveParis I totally agree!!! I loved my first wedding - it just wasn't to the right guy! I don't want to call myself jaded, but definitely more hesitant with our relationship at first. But FH and I are a perfect fit - we have our own things but still have a lot in common.

My first wedding was a destination wedding on a gorgeous beach with just immediate family. And I was honestly completely fine with doing that again (this is both our second marriage) but fiance wanted a big wedding with all of our friends there too! So this time around I am doing the whole big thing - big(ger) dress, bridal party, hair & makeup, reception, programs, centerpieces, cake...everything!!!

Oh and of course, this time around I have WW and Pinterest ;0)

Also not offended, at all! I feel more knowledgeable and experienced...have loved and lost, and know more what I want in a lifetime partner. My first marriage was due to pressure from him (the ex) and my family, who felt, since I was pregnant, we might as well. I wanted to wait until AFTER. I knew NOTHING about marriage, and I was WAY too young to know such. (No offense to young brides...I was 16 and a wild child!) Had "perfect" relationships before...that I THOUGHT should result in marriage, and did not. My FH and I do NOT have "perfect" now, but in between the times I want to strangle him, I know I do not want to live without him, as well.

As for the wedding itself...I am having the wedding that I did not have before...which initially, HE wanted more than I...I would have been happy just doing it! But NOW...with all the planning, *I* am more into it...and like everything I do...if I am going to do it, it is going to be 100%!

I was engaged at 22 and didn't go through with it, although I planned the whole wedding. I broke it off it turned out that I didn't know him well enough after getting engaged after only 4 months. Although he is now my best friend, we weren't meant to be partners in life, and I figured that out in time.

Now after dating a hundred years I know that this time I have my exact right man and wouldn't have settled for anything else.

I have to say though, that I have heard over the years from many women friends that the first time they walked down the aisle they DID know that it wasn't right, but they felt like it was too late to do anything about it. One woman actually was wishing she was walking up the aisle toward an old boyfriend and not her fiance!!

Another story - my brother was married before, and his wife left him ONE MONTH after the wedding -- she obviously knew long before the wedding but went through with it anyway - what a heartbreak for my brother! and expensive!