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Dedicated June 2019

Second marriage do i ditch the white dress and veil?

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Addy, on November 15, 2018 at 4:49 PM

According to my mom and a lot of older people with the traditional views a white dress is only for 1st marriages. Although I wore ivory the 1st time and was pregnant. I found the dress I feel I am in love with however its white or ivory and not the inital color I wanted....1st pic is my dress and second pic is the picture on the internet in the color I wanted. Should I just get the one they have or order a different color and avoid people talking. FH and I live together and we have an 8 month old, and I have 3kids from my previous marriage. The lady at the bridal shop also said I should wear a veil and that its free with my dress; she says I should consider it. However I feel so stressed since its so soon (2.5 yrs since my separation/divorce) and since its FH he wants us to do it all as if its a first. I already had the bog ballgown, train, veil, big reception wedding. Everything planned by my mom though. Now I get to do it all our way and still its so hard not to stress.

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Expert June 2019
Ginsteeca · on November 16, 2018 at 10:21 AM
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I'm wearing ivory and a veil for my 2nd wedding. I wore a champagne formal dress for my first wedding because I was pregnant and cared what people thought when I was 21. At 38 I don't give a dang. I still have my moments where I wonder if what we're doing is the "right" way, but I feel if we're lucky enough to find love again we deserve it. This is the second wedding for both of us, I have 2 kids, my fiance has one. We're doing it all like a first wedding and picking things that make us happy.
Wear what you want. People who are going to talk will talk no matter what you do. You might as well be happy.
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Kristin · on November 17, 2018 at 1:09 AM
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Get what you want totally. And go with the veil if you want. I did. It was my second wedding, plus I’m old to boot. I needed my fairytale because I’d finally found my prince.
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Pamela · on November 19, 2018 at 4:16 AM
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Wear white if you want to, there is no written rule and I don't think people are going to be judging your decision - it's your wedding!
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Kathleen · on January 15, 2019 at 4:23 PM
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Thank you to all that replied. This is our 2nd marriage for both of us- I'm divorced 11 years and he is divorced 9 years. We are planning a smaller wedding at a local restaurant but still 85 people- i have no idea what kind of dress. I am overwhelmed about dress shopping... I love all the comments helped me get some self confidence!!
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Mrs. Spring · on January 4, 2021 at 11:34 AM
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You should get the dress on the color you want.
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