Second bride etiquette

Congratulations Diane!

You are just like a first time bride except that I believe it is a faux pas to register for gifts.

I've never heard of any such rules/etiquette for second time brides.

It's still your day and I'd say to go with what you want. Everyone expects the garter and bouquet toss at a wedding.first time, second time, third time - who cares?... I don't see anything wrong with it. As fro the veil- I believe it completes the bridal look so if you want to go all out and have one- go for it.

If people snicker about anything - so what. as long as you and FH are happy and did what you wanted then its all good. Good luck

Not sure if there are any hard and fast rules. usually after the 1st wedding there is no shower. my aunt, who was widowed and then remarried, she didn't have anyone walk her down the aisle the 2nd time, she said was already walked by her father, it wouldn't have the same meaning to her. she still did a bouquet toss, that's for the single ladies not really for the bride so I don't see anything wrong with it if its something you want to do. she also didn't wear a veil, but IDK if it was bc the 2nd wedding or she just didn't want to.

Maybe I don't know enough about this, but I really don't think the etiquette is any different for a second wedding. Also, tons of first-wedding brides (like myself) choose not to wear a veil. It's really just personal preference and if it fits in with your dress and style.

I will tell you what my husband told me "You are the bride!"

Nuff said, Darlin'. Enjoy planning and hope we see more of you

Not sure on any "rules" for this, but I say if the veil makes the look and you want it you should rock it.

I'd say do what you want. Just make sure you and FH are happy! Congrats!

This is my second time as well. FH first, he is very traditional. I plan on wearing white. Just b/c we have been married before does not mean we can not have a dream wedding. We deserve it. My mom suggested putting something in my families invite that said gift not required since this is my second time. I personally don't agree with that. I am inviting very few to my wedding and i won't be hurt if they don't get a gift.

FWIW, Miss Manners says you can go ahead and wear white if you want-- she says, "White was always meant as a fashion statement-- not as an advertisement about the body therein". So, if you want to wear white, feel free!

And I second Caroline-- just do what you want, have fun, and have a long marriage!

This isn't my first rodeo either and I read up on etiquette before the planning process really kicked in. There aren't too many faux pas from what I understand but I have read that you shouldn't wear a veil. They say white is ok but to try and avoid a really long train. Mine is a shorter train and I'm not wearing a veil. I bought a really pretty hair clip to go in my up do. Other than that, it seems in this day and age, just about anything goes.

I think that really the only thing you shouldn't do is registering for gifts and maybe a shower. But I mean really it's up to you. No one should be judging you in all honesty.

Anything goes, you are the bride!

Hmmm ok thanks everyone! :-)

I feel like the no veil, short train, etc are leftovers from when new brides were still "pure" for their husbands. In 2016, that is completely stupid IMO and I think you should wear a veil if you want to!

The only thing I've heard of is no showers (kinda like how you're not supposed to have one for your second baby) but I'm not sure if that's real or just something through the grapevine!

I have to say if you wear a veil or white dress you are going to hear negativity.

But honestly I think you should do what you want, dont worry about stupid rules and have the wedding that you will enjoy. I disagree about the shower, if someone wants throw you one you should have it and if you dont have a registry people will still buy you gifts and give you money....

My dress is ivory but I'm going for more of a vintage style anyway so that part is worked out.

I'm a second time bride as well. I'm not having a shower or wearing a veil, but the veil part is mainly because I don't want one. We also aren't doing a garter or bouquet toss because the wedding is mostly family with no single people that I can think of. So while some things I'm doing might appear to be because I'm a "second time" bride, it's really just logistics!

ETA: My dress is also ivory with a small train :-)

I registered for gifts and I was a second time bride. This is my DH's first marriage and some people wanted to get us gifts so i made a small registry. I didn't have a shower but only because my immediately family isn't really into throwing showers and I didn't have a BP (either time because that is my preference). I wore a birdcage veil because it was what I wanted and fit with my vintage theme. I wore black to my first wedding and ivory to my second. The only person who attended both of my weddings was my best friend of 17 years. Literally no one else was on both guest lists so no one would know the difference.

ETA: No bouquet or garter toss at either wedding b/c I don't care for those things. No other reasons like first or second weddings.

Thank you for the input ladies! Much appreciated! :-)

Congrats on your engagement! I'm planning my second wedding too, although it's my FH's first wedding.

It's your first wedding to your FH. If you want to wear a veil, you can. If you don't want to, you don't have to. I wasn't planning to wear one, based on articles I read online, but when I went to the bridal shop they put one on me and I liked it. I don't know who you are going to hear negativity from about a white dress or a veil.

I disagree with the posters saying you shouldn't have a shower or register for gifts either. My first wedding was 20 years ago and I didn't have a shower. My bridesmaids hosted a beautiful shower for me last weekend, and a lot of my family came even though this is my second wedding. I hadn't registered for a lot of things because I felt weird about it, and my bridesmaids were all bugging me to register for more. Plus, like I said, it is my FH's first (only) wedding and his family wanted to buy gifts too. They are also planning a bachelorette party for me too. I didn't have one of those the first time either and I'm really looking forward to it.

We're not doing a garter or bouquet toss, not because it's my second wedding but because we don't want to.