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Seating Grandfather's Girlfriend

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Sydney, on March 6, 2018 at 5:12 PM

Hi All! I have a question on how I should seat my single (wife deceased) Grandfather. Now, my Grandmother, his wife, passed in 1997, so a very long time ago and since then, he's had a lady companion for about the past 2 years or so. I heard through the grapevine, that she was concerned about whether or not she would be escorted down the aisle with him, seemingly as the place of a Grandmother. My initial plan was to have her seated with the family but not escorted. What are your thoughts on this? I have a rather large family of cousins, uncles, aunts, etc. who obviously will not be escorted and since she isn't MY Grandmother I don't really see a problem with her being seated in the front (there will be 25 other people in the first few rows) but not escorted. Just some kind of guidance would be appreciated.

*Honestly, I'm more of turned off/annoyed that she's so concerned and assumed she would be escorted. But what is the "proper" way to do this?

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Super October 2018
MaltedMilk · on March 6, 2018 at 7:28 PM
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She can be seated ahead of people, just not escorted with an usher. Grandpa can join her in the front row when he gets escorted down the aisle.
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Devoted September 2018
Future Mrs. S · on March 6, 2018 at 7:42 PM
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Hey I don't think she should be escort. Maybe she can have a corsage and sit with the family but she is not married to your grandfather yet and is not there to take your grandmother's place. That's just my opinion
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Super October 2018
QueenDavis · on March 6, 2018 at 7:52 PM
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My MIL has a bf of a year that none of us met or know, and he will NOT be walking down no aisle, he will be sitting down while my MIL is escorted by his nephew. She do not have to be escorted, she is not a VIP, harsh but FACTS.
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QueenDavis · on March 6, 2018 at 7:52 PM
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She do not get a corsage, thats for VIPs only.
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Tracy · on March 6, 2018 at 9:32 PM
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Then maybe it should be his choice.
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Super March 2018
chelsey · on March 6, 2018 at 9:44 PM
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My dad passed when I was in high school. My mom remarried about 4 years ago. I'm not close with her husband but he will escort her down the aisle. None of my family will think he is my dad and it will make my mom happy so that's how I'm doing it. I did have to draw the line when she wanted him to walk me down the aisle. That was an immediate no.

I would talk with your grandpa about the situation and see what he thinks. I would do it when she isn't around so you can have an honest discussion about your thoughts and wants.
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Master September 2018
Jennifer · on March 7, 2018 at 11:20 AM
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We have sort of the same situation - FH dad is remarried and for various reasons the family does NOT like her at all, to the point that I have NEVER met her. She chose not to come to our engagement party because she was mad at FFIL & after that olive branch was turned away (after a long history with the family) FH decided he is done with her. BUT...for his fathers sake, she is going to be invited to walk down the aisle with FFIL, if she chooses not to come to the wedding for whatever reason, at least we tried again...it's more about FFIl than it is about her.
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Tammy · on March 7, 2018 at 1:50 PM
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I think if your Grandfather is being escorted in and having her just sitting waiting for him she probably feels a little hurt and not accepted. It might have less to do with being escorted and more being treated differently and feeling "left out".
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