Seating couples with their date

I haven't seen a head table in probably over 10 years. Up until that point it was the norm at just every wedding I'd been to. However, you calling her out on her choice was likely unnecessary.

As of right now I have a head table with just my bridal party. I was considering mixing the BM and GM in order for them to sit next to either their SO or a friend. I've been very confused on what to do for this aspect of the wedding as well!

Head tables are so 90's.

Look, your nearest and dearest (WP) will be with you all day, usually for hours. They first time they will see their SO will be dinner. Why wouldn't you want to treat the people that are closest to you and have spent so much money on you better? I would do anything for my WP and that includes letting them sit with the people they want to the most, their SO.

I just think it's rude. She can do what she wants. I'm not going to her wedding and she's not coming to mine. Different circles- different norms I guess. She's from New York and I am not. It's just not my normal. Whatever- I guess I'm a bitch then.

Everyone should always be seated with their date.

@Maria, there definitely is a right and wrong.

See no one in our wedding party is married...and their Boyfriends/girlfriends were invites sepretly as guests not plus ones as most of them are friends of ours...I don't see it as rude to not have then sit together as they knew from the start what the plan was if your up front with your bridal party and they are not comfortable they can speak up...ours is perfectly fine sitting separate for dinner.

Thank you @catlady. The groom going under the bride's dress to get the garter is the norm in my circle, but it doesn't mean I have to do it because everyone else is.

I'm doing a sweetheart table .

As head tables aren't super popular here .. and j/s I was at my Fiances best friends wedding ... and he was a groomsman ... I would have been miserable all night had they not sat me with my fiance ... I didint know anybody . . Except part of the bridal party ... and my fmil and they had my FMIl at another table ...

Iitsumo, no-one is going to tell the wedding couple that they don't like the seating plan. That's probably why you think they are "perfectly fine sitting separate for dinner".

Sweetheart tables are NOT a thing where I am, so I was delighted to find out about them on WW, because I love the concept of keeping SOs/families together.

We could probably have done a very small king's table -- the direction I was leaning before I even knew the concept had a name -- as long as the one GM doesn't bring his three kids.

My guys are together, so with them, FH and me, and 2 GM and their SOs we'd have been a table of 8, which is lovely. Add in 3 kids...a table of 11. Not so great.

But it's a moot point because I am now #teamsweetheart

The wedding I am going to in 3 weeks, my FW is a bridesmaid and she is sitting at the head table and I'm put at a table with all our mutual friends. Kinda sucks I don't get to sit next to her. :-( We are doing a sweetheart table for this exact reason. Also, the couple is hardly ever sitting, why force your party to sit with you when you aren't even going to be talking to them?

Personally, I'd much prefer to sit with my FH, which is why we're keeping couples together at our wedding.

That being said, do what works best for you! If all goes well, they won't be sitting at their table for long, anyway.

My bridesmaids want a head table, so I'm going to make a big one with their kids and spouses included.

We will be having a sweetheart table, mainly to have 5 minutes alone but then we'll be walking around majority of dinner. The bridal party will be with their partners and families. Some SO won't know anyone else so we didn't want to isolate them.

Wedding party and their SO's are a package deal. We have a sweetheart table, so the WP is sitting together at one table with their SO's/plus ones (minus my brother and his GF who are sitting with my parents). WP and their SOs/plus ones are all invited to the rehearsal dinner and they are all staying in the cabin we rented for the wedding party as well.

I would never split them up, that's rude.

If that's what your wedding party did at their weddings (please correct me if I misunderstood), then they might just think that's how it should be. Have you asked any of them? I'm sure they have a preference and as these are theoretically your closest friends I'm sure you want them to enjoy themselves as much as possible, which might mean asking what they would like.

I think it is rude to not sit people with their SO's; just think about how that person feels. The bridal party has been together all day and ceremony and pictures, the least you could do was give them dinner together. I think the head tables concept goes into the making your bridal party a photo prop and not thinking of them as people.

It's not "just for dinner". It's for the entire day of getting ready, sitting separately at the ceremony, taking photos with the bridal party, etc. Sit your BP with their SOs.

I've seen it both ways. I've seen the bridal party separated from their partners but I've also seen them together.

I was kind of team head table for a while and then I realized what a freaking hassle it was! We ended up doing a sweetheart table (although we did request a larger table than the tiny rinky dink ones most venues give the bride and groom) and I am so glad we did! We sat our bridal party at two prime real estate tables so they could sit with their SO's and other bridal party members. It worked out great!