Seating couples with their date

Most weddings I've been to have had the wedding party seated together for dinner and then their spouses/significant others seated with other family or friends. We are having a fairly small wedding and I think this is what we are leaning towards but I do see your point. I guess it's just what we've always done in our circle...

"I just thought everybody knew about guest comfort." You have 5 stars, you should know that is not at all true if you read these forums.

Agreed. I guess I did know. I can survive without my spouse- but if they're in the room, why would I want to?

At one wedding I was in the bride had a head table -- where I was as BM -- and my FH was stuck sitting with the photographer.

He's now my ex, and that wedding was 25 years ago, but we still talk about it.

He even asked if I'd be seating him with the photographer.

These things hang on, people.

If I'm taking vacation days, spending a ton of money and probably spending all day getting ready with you, the least you can do is let me sit with my SO. I'm there to support you, not be a photo prop.

FH and I were both in a wedding last year and were seated at opposite ends of the head table. We made faces at each other the whole time. We still laugh about it.

If there is a head table would be the only way I could see them being separated.

I have always thought this was weird, but now I especially hate this because I was at a wedding last year (FH was in the wedding) and I had to sit with two of the bridesmaids' spouses (not bad) and their combined 4 kids under the age of 3 years old. NIGHTMARE.

We're doing a sweetheart table and letting the wedding party sit with their spouses for just this reason.

I'm not used to head tables at all, and I've only been to one wedding (out of 15) that had one, but the SOs were seated with them.

With or without SO's doesn't make sense to me anyway (I'm team sweetheart), but why can't you eat dinner with their SO's at the table as well? Will it poison the food?

Uggghhh filthy peasants.

We're having a head table and asking SOs where they'd like to sit, at the head table or with other friends/family... I was at a wedding where I didn't know anyone besides FH (who was the best man) and the couple. They put me at the head table next to FH and I was incredibly uncomfortable the entire time. I don't like attention and I would've honestly preferred sitting in a corner by myself. I don't think there's a definitive way it should be done and the best policy is to just ask what would make people most comfortable.

Well just me. I'm a pretty outgoing person so I would be okay perhaps, but some people are very shy and this would make them uncomfortable. I'd survive but I probably wouldn't have any fun.

Im having a head table to SO won't be together, however they all know eachother and will be sitiing together at a table. One is my BIL so he will be with the family table. Idk why but every wedding ive been to (Id say 10) had head tables and some ppl say rarely see head tables? Maybe its just where im from lol

I never liked the idea of breaking up the couples because of the bridal party. After the ceremony is over their duties are over and at time for all of us to have fun. I don't consider sitting across the room from my SO having fun so I'm not going to do it to their people. Some people have BPs that don't actually know one another why would you want to sit them all together without their spouses?

I hated being separated from my FH at weddings. Especially if it was one where I didnt know a lot of people.

We are doing a sweetheart table and then seating the bridal party together with their spouses. Most of them know each other already so its not an issue

We ended up with a sweetheart table and placing our Bp with s/os around the room. The one wedding I was in that did a head table made it more of a kings table. The entire BP had their dates sitting with them. It worked out great for all those with SO so if it was a huge battle for us, that would have been my accommodation.

Our party will be sitting with their significant other and/or with people they know at the wedding. We'll be doing a sweetheart table in place of a big table. Two members of our bridal party have children that will be in attendance, so we didn't want to separate them from their kiddos or spouse.

They are just sitting to eat, right...

Depends on where you are from, but no one here has even heard of sweetheart table when I asked around. Everyone here does head tables, that is the norm. Everyone on this forum will disagree, but I'll take the word of a friend who's been in 20+ weddings (and she's my age) over strangers on the internet.

But I'm also not sitting their guests with the photographer, I'm matching them up with people I think are like minded. MOH hubby with be with some of FH hunting buddies. A groomsmen GF will be with some of my girlfriends she already knows... As long as they don't feel like leftovers, it will be fine.

The last wedding FH and I went to had a head table (FH was a GM) and no other assigned tables. It was a cluster fuck and I was stuck at a table full of strangers. Luckily the MOH's FH didn't know anyone else either and was friendly so we sat there awkwardly together and cooed over the adorableness of my step daughter. It was still very weird and uncomfortable and I don't want to put my guests through that so we are doing assigned tables and a sweetheart table.

I will have my bridal party and their spouses seated together

I've never even been to a wedding that didn't have a head table that consisted of the wedding party. There is no right or wrong way to this. It just varies on the situation and location, like what @Candace said.

I'm having a head table and the wedding party is sitting with me. However, literally the entire wedding party has been friends with one another since high school. All ten of us (including me and FH) have kept up with one another since graduation. Therefore, our bridesmaids AND groomsmen wish to sit with us at a head table. As for their SO's? They all happen to be friends too. So I'll be sitting them at a table, together. Most of them have expressed this: It's only for dinner. I'll be with my SO the rest of the night dancing anyway.

ETA: I think either the head table or the sweetheart tables are fine. Nor am I saying that SO's should be broken up just because one of them is in the wedding party. Simply saying that it's going to vary!

We're planning on having a head table with bridal party and then the significant others will be together with people they know so it's not weird at all.