Seating Arrangements?

It is very common to assign tables! I wouldn't recommend assigning specific seats at that table, but I think it would be a great idea to assign tables. That way, you can still seat certain family members on opposite sides of the room, and people at each table can choose who they want to sit by at that table.

Assigning tables is really common. I, however, had a sweetheart table and then two loooooong banquet tables, and I assigned individual seats. I spent a long time making sure that everyone sat next to or across from at least one or two people they knew well, and I also made sure I had a buffer between my divorced parents and their +1s. Everything was cordial, they get along alright, but I wanted everyone to be comfortable.

I was actually complimented later by those who know my complicated (dramatic) family dynamic for my seating arrangements 🤣

It's a lot of work, but for me it was worth it, and everyone was comfortable and happy and there was *no drama*

Assigning tables is very common, if not the norm. I've only been to one wedding without any form of assigned seating and honestly it was a disaster. I would definitely recommend assigning tables.

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Assigning table sounds like a great idea! It'll definitely make it a little bit easier!

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My FH's parents are divorced, that one of the reasons for wanting assigned tables lol

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My family has never done assigned seating at weddings, because it was a small town and everyone knew everyone. MY FH family is about 3-4 hours away and haven't met my family yet.

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I agree with this!

We're doing assigned tables only, for the exact reason Lisa mentioned. Guests are 'assigned', yet they still choose their own seat.

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Even if assigned tables is not a typical custom at weddings in your family, I would still do it! Especially for the reasons you mentioned in wanting to avoid drama

We assigned tables AND seats since our venue required it for our complicated plated dinner service (lots of dietary restrictions and allergies!) and in order to avoid any drama (husband’s grandma doesn’t get along with his now widowed step-grandma). It worked out perfectly fine. I say do it if it helps prevent any conflicts from happening.

Assigned tables is a must at every wedding. If you don't, it will be mass chaos. Couples split up, grandma saves a table for people who don't sit with her and she doesn't give up the seats for anything, guests who should not be in the same building have no choice but to share a table, etc.

It would be more rude to have open seating

There’s nothing rude about table assignments.

Totally & 💯 % agree- it’s not rude. I’m working on our seating chart. He doesn’t want it but there’s certain family members that don’t need to be near each other.

I'm soo happy and appreciative of all the feed back! I will definitely be doing assigned tables!

Yeah, it's not uncommon. Go for it.

I very much prefer a table assignment as a guest! I don't think it's rude at all. I would go for it.

No. They are very common. You can do table assignments instead of actual seat assignments.

Agreeing with everyone about yes to table assignments! I went to a wedding that was a free-for-all and it was a hot mess, especially for larger units like parents with multiple kids that can't be split up between tables.

This is definitely okay! I’ve actually never been to a wedding without seating. But I have the same family drama issues, so put them all far apart🤗

We not only did table assignments for dinner, but had actual assigned seats for the ceremony — which was only done due to Covid.