Seafood boil & bbq reception theme

Yes it is considered rude to ask people to bring a dish. Is there a local restaurant or grocery store that you could get some side dishes from?

View Quoted Comment We are paying this for ourselves. This is more of a family and friends style reception that we are choosing to do a big family style fashion cookout. We don't need nor want anything fancy , we are laid back and all about our family and closes friends. Most restaurants will charge high price due the summer is busy season. BUT we will consider to look into that. We are not asking for gifts as I am not doing a wedding registry.

View Quoted Comment I understand. But just like it’s considered rude to ask for money or list a registry on a wedding invitation you shouldn’t ask people to bring something. The host should always provide. If money is tight the best way to save money is to cut the guest list.

View Quoted Comment Okay thank you. I will consider looking into the local seafood markets for the purchases. We were not planning on a large wedding in the first place.

Yes. Please do not do this.

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Okay Seafood boil out of the question .

The reception is to thank your guests for attending, it would be rude to ask them to pay for their own thankyou. Hopefully you can find something in budget, BBQ catering can be relatively cheap, if not, your options are to cut your guest list so you can host everyone properly for a full meal, or host a cake and punch reception at a non meal time

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Oh I see. The seafood was what was blowing your budget? Yeah, I am a very picky eater. If I know that something is a pot luck, I just don't eat. I would be very wary of pot luck seafood ( if I wasn't already deathly allergic to it) because the temp has to be maintained. It has to be fully cooked etc. I would be terrified that I'd have food poisoning the next day.

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There will probably at the most be about 20-30ppl IF THAT. There will also be a vegetarian dishes and healthy foods as a few of my guests are vegetarians and most of us workout together. The seafood isn't going to blow it at all. Our wedding package is only $500 for the service and décor which is only the archway and chairs including the ordained minister and the signing of marriage license. My brother has friends who are chefs for local restaurants who will be prepping the food for us and providing music as this is all taking place at the beach. Which we have to bring a grill as the shelter we reserve does not have one near by.

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Got it! It sounds like a really cool reception. Very chill and laid back. If you can find room in the budget for the seafood then it sounds amazing. You could even try Costco, Sams Club or Restaurant Depot. You've got plenty of time to pull it all together! You got this.

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Thank you. We have already found a seafood market that we can get things in bulk based on the number of people that attend. We really don't think we will have 50 ppl. BUT I am the kind of person who always plans extra. We are a very laid back couple. We have accomplished so much together that is why we don't want any gifts or wedding shower or engagement party or anything.

We didn't register either. We told people that their presence is our gift. There are people who are insisting on getting us things though. My friends and family are all very supportive. One of my best friends hosted our engagement party and another is hosting what was supposed to be a surprise shower for me next weekend. LOL

Do you have any guests with allergies? I wouldn’t be able to eat anything at a seafood reception, because if the food touches anything that I eat my throat will close. Just make sure you’re aware of that!

View Quoted Comment The reception is not a thank you for the guests. It is your first time to host people as husband and wife, which still goes against a potluck.

I am not sure if anyone read my first post but there isn't ONLY seafood at this reception, There will be the traditional bbq trimmings burger, beef and turkey, hot dogs or sausage dogs, kabobs - veggie and chicken, I will make a vegetarian dish for my vegetarian friend/makeup artist /hairstylist, there will be few appetizers. My mother is Filipina and will be making pancit, lumpia, and other Filipino dishes. We want a small intimate wedding with family and friends. Also we are having a wedding cake and cupcakes and cookies.

www.inspiredbride.net/how-to-plan-a-potluck-wedding/

View Quoted Comment Regardless of if it’s just seafood, if it’s prepared in the same kitchen I couldn’t eat it.

View Quoted Comment Rather, if it’s not just seafood. I can’t eat anything prepared in the same space. So I would be hungry at this wedding.

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1) These are NOT cooked in the same kitchen. A low country boil is cooked OUTSIDE in a special oversized pot and seasoned separately from ALL the non seafood. 2) The other foods will be cooked either in the kitchen such as the Filipino foods because my mother will be preparing that in her and my father's home. 3) The guests we have invited are NOT allergic to seafood.. as we have given plenty of other options for those who dislike seafood.

View Quoted Comment Was just giving you advice! If you cover all of the bases, then fine. I was just making you aware that sometimes may be an issue. Congrats on your wedding and I hope your reception goes well!

So jealous! My fiance would love the seafood boil. We are thinking of doing that if we have a couple's shower. I personally would never invite guests to a wedding and ask them to bring food, since they are the guests and should be treated to a meal. Plus it's super inconvenient for guests who have to travel to the wedding.