"Screw it" phase, anyone?

The bridesmaid dresses might come out more cohesive altogether than you think. Maybe you can ask your aunt to do a sample for you first to see how it looks? And maybe your cousin can send you a DJ sample too? But for the DJ stuff it could be really simple he could just straight up play all the songs off lists you give him

Definitely not!! I just told my fiancé that I just wanted to elope after I’ve done all this planning 😂


We moved our date back to 5/15/21 and I don’t want to wait that long!

I have totally been there, and I’m just now coming out the other side after several months of saying screw it we don’t even need an officiant or witnesses in Colorado. Melle gave some good suggestions to help relieve your stress over family helping. We are planning to DIY flowers because they aren’t a priority to us, if they are to you make sure they are going to be what you want, and that she knows how much work it is. As for DJing, are you more concerned about song selection/playlist or about MCing? My cousin offered to DJ, and I was weary because we have such different taste in music, but I figured we’d provide him with a playlist.
I feel like it’s getting more and more stressful watching the days tick by, but it’s all going to be worth it.

View Quoted Comment Awe 🙁, I’m sorry! We were thinking we may have to move our date to next year too. We will have been engaged 19 months when we get married this September and I couldn’t imagine pushing it back another year! We did discuss still getting married this year and having a vow renewal next year with our guests.

Nope on there too! Our wedding has been moved twice from March to July to January 🙄 I’m in a constant mood. Good luck to you though. I hope it all works out!

Yes girl we’ve all been there. I have a fairly elaborate day planned, and with all this going on I keep thinking “f*** it let’s just get married here on the farm”. Then I take a few days off from thinking about wedding stuff.


I would show your auntie pictures and see what she can do. Florals on the tables won’t matter too much, mainly your bouquets for photos. I think dresses will work out.

I feel you. every day is a roller coaster ride. the unknown is whats eating me up but I can only take it as it comes

Your wedding has a lot of moving parts, people everywhere and- non-professional vendors that you have to worry about and can’t fully trust their services. So together that makes planning very difficult and overwhelming (pandemic or not). The first poster gave some ideas. But a good DJ needs to also have wedding MC skills and can’t simply play songs in the background. In that case, you may as well use your cell phone and wireless speakers. Personally, I would thank my family members and explain that you want them to relax and enjoy the day as a guest (There’s nothing worse than a non-professional wedding vendor who you have to babysit). Also if you just want to “get the day over with”, I’d skip Vegas and go to the local courthouse. As terrible as everything feels right now, if you know that you’ll look back and regret eloping out of frustration, then that’s even worse. If postponing to allow yourself more breathing room isn’t an option, then take a week away from planning and then jump back in and begin efficiently tackling tasks and cut out what’s unnecessary (and there’s always plenty of unnecessary things with a wedding). Ive seen on here where brides continued with there wedding, despite the current conditions, and they had an enjoyable wedding day. Im certain that you would too.

Hi! I’m getting married in 8 days 6/26 in south Florida. I totally get the “screw it” phase. But have really come to learn through Covid what really matters to me. This is different for everyone but try to think of the reason you’re getting married and how you want to remember that day. It helps me.

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Yes! For real! All the unknown has been the hardest part.

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Haha yes. I talked to my fiancé last night about the screw it phase and he goes "you know we can still just elope..." but we both know if we can have the big wedding on that day than we want the big wedding on that day.

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Thank you for this. Super helpful.

The reason I said to go to a Vegas Chapel is because I live in Vegas so I would only be a 15 minute drive for me. My fiancé is always like "so do you feel like getting married today? I know a little chapel on the blvd we can gooo. No one has to know." hahaha cue Bruno Mars.

Unless the governor of California shuts our venue down or limits it to 60 persons or less, we won't be postponing but are prepared if we must.

It has been a little challenging planning a wedding in 6 months on top of everything else going on. Not saying its impossible just challenging. And you are right, I believe this will all work out how it should.

I dont know of this helps but I feel what you're feeling. My May 16th wedding was canceled and my world has been a struggle since. After trying to re schedule our wedding 4 times I have given up and we are having a mini wedding with 25 members of our close family. We will have a ceremony and dinner after that's all. Its scheduled for 9/6 and i hope we can make it happen this time. Stay strong!

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Congrats!

That is true it hits everyone differently, guys and girls.

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Oh wow! I am really sorry to hear that it has been such a scheduling nightmare, it seems. No bride deserves to go through that. I have faith that your September date will be amazing! You too, remember to stay strong.

I am with you. My wedding was scheduled from 4/25/2020, I live in NJ had to postpone. New date is 9/26/2020. We are now facing the growing possibility of having to reschedule again. I want to say forget it. I can take a second to say how incredibly unfair this is for us brides, getting married is stressful but this is insane. How am I supposed to plan a wedding in this environment?

I had these phases all the time - even when I was wedding planning in 2015 - so it's totally understandable that you're feeling these lows with all of the insanity covid has caused this year!

Take a planning break if you need one! Honestly for me even just officially 'declaring' the next week a planning break felt a lot better mentally than just procrastinating for a week. And then when you're ready to get started again try to focus on just one detail at a time!

It's also totally ok to change your wedding priorities mid-planning! If you no longer want to stress about the details, then just refocus on the big things that really matter for your wedding day. ❤️

View Quoted Comment How funny! We’re the opposite.... we live in SoCal and are getting married in Vegas 🔁. But we just postponed from 10/10/20 to 10/2/21 (a 21 month engagement to 33 months) 🤦🏽‍♀️ 😂 So I definitely understand. But between the pandemic, the protests, unknown future guidelines, hotel/venue still closed, everything newly reopening and businesses stumbling through that process, people intermingling again (many without masks), not knowing what that will result in by October and other reasons.... we had a realistic conversation and couldn’t deny that postponing was best in our situation. I actually feel “lighter” now without the looming “what if’s”. So we’re waiting until life is a lot more clear about this “new normal“ and we can truly host a proper destination wedding weekend for our guests. If we were younger we’d probably be in more of a panic and rush. But when you hit your 40s (we’re both second marriages) you just flow with it.

View Quoted Comment Omg I totally agree with this! I’m starting to feel crazy lol

Yes I am totally in don't care mode. We have been engaged for 2.5 years with the hopes 2020 is gonna be a huge year.. it is just not in a good way lol. We have already postponed from June to August and now their saying they might not allow indoor weddings until a vaccine is produced. Who knows when that will even be so I’m about to just get married regardless and be done with it. It has taken all the excitement out of the wedding process between moving the shower and not being able to have a bachelorette, and I don’t know if I really want to wait another year.