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Brianne
Savvy August 2020

Scrapping the Guestbook and Programs?

Brianne, on June 18, 2020 at 10:28 AM Posted in Planning 1 43
Hi! We’re getting married in 43 days (August 1st) 🙌🏼. I spoke with my wedding planner and he told me a lot of brides are just not doing guestbooks or programs! The programs are really the only thing I have left to do and I had looked on Zola and some other websites because we really went big on the save the dates and invitations. I saw some people leave reviews that they folded weird, or text was off center. For the guest book- we have 200 people invited to the wedding and 400 to the reception (we live in a small community- everyone knows everyone 🥰). That’s ALOT of people to filter through a guestbook. Am I wrong to assume no one will miss it or the programs? Do you think programs are a must? Really the only thing we’ve lost due to our postponement is our live music, so we’ve been very fortunate. Please share your opinions! ❤️

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Latest activity by Aline, on May 10, 2021 at 7:50 AM
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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Programs aren't necessary. We had them because I wanted dthem, but we also had only 100 people. A guestbook I would say is something nice to have. Our guestbook wasn't actually a book it was a hockey and a baseball Jersey.
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  • Gabbysitaxo
    Dedicated October 2021
    Gabbysitaxo ·
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    Programs aren't needed. If you have a wedding website, you can post the program there! Or, you can design some programs yourself and print them on cardstock paper. This way you do not spend too much on them.

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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Programs are a waste.

    A guestbook is a personal preference, but I really enjoy looking through ours. We had a photo booth at our wedding and everyone took one of their photo strips, placed it in our book and wrote their message with it. It is a really nice keepsake from our day.

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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Programs aren't necessary at all. i only did them because i had an outdoor ceremony in June in SoCal so i just felt like it was a nice addition to give people a fan if they needed aha or to use for shading.

    when it comes to guestbooks i think it's nice to have something to remember who and who were there. i do think the ones where it's just a book people sign are kind of just the type you'll never look at again though but now a days there are so many guestbook options

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    I don't think either are a "must"! I did programs because I personally love seeing them at weddings as a guest. I may be one of the few, but I read through the whole thing and really appreciate the personal touch. We added a guest book at the last minute (literally Amazon primed it to the hotel) and I'm happy we did. Not everyone signed it but it was nice to read after.

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    We didn’t do a program or guestbook and I don’t regret either of those things.
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  • Mrs. S
    Super November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    I don’t think they’re necessary if you don’t want them. But I do think they’re nice and some people throw them away but some don’t. I personally like looking at peoples programs and keep them. Plus so much time and attention is spent on the reception I think it’s nice to honor the ceremony which is the reason for the wedding. I think the guestbook is worth it if people actually write messages, or if you want a list of guest names for future sentimentality.
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    Super August 2020
    Alex ·
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    How are you having 400 people at a reception safely?

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    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    The only times I have appreciated a program as a guest is when it's a long, involved religious ceremony where I am unfamiliar with the traditions and order of events. Simple, straightforward ceremony? I'm not going to take or read a program.

    Guests will not notice a "missing" guestbook. Those are strictly for you and your future spouse, if you want one to keep. Lots of people don't sign them anyway, so it's not like they are a faithful and complete record of attendees.

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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I didn't do either and do not regret my decision. I don't think anyone noticed. Also, as a guest, I almost never sign the guestbook lol, so I didn't really expect others to either.
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  • Jasmine
    Master August 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    Programs definitely aren't a necessity but you can look into alternatives for a guest book instead of an actual book.
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  • VIP August 2020
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    I don't think you need programs. If you want people to be able to see what's going to happen, you can make one big program sign and put it near the beginning (back?) of the aisle. For the guestbook, I don't think guests will miss it, but with 400 people, you won't get much time to spend with each person, so it might be a nice thing for you to have later on. It doesn't have to be a traditional guest book, though. You could set up a few stations in different areas (or even put one on each table) to prevent everyone from having to filter through one place. On each station, you would set up some pens little cards or removable scrapbook pages for people to write on, and then you could compile them into one guest book later on.
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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    Programs are not necessary if you're having a non-religious ceremony. We needed to have programs because we had a religious ceremony, and we had guests in attendance from various backgrounds and a program was necessary for people to follow along. I've been to plenty of weddings without guestbooks. I would recommend programs if you're having a religious ceremony but otherwise, would absolutely skip

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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    We never even considered doing programs. Most people knows what happens at a wedding and why spend money and create more trash for something that is completely unnecessary.

    I do think guest books (or guest book alternatives) are nice, but definitely optional. An interactive activity for guests (signing a guest book, writing down marriage advice for the couple, a polaroid selfie station, etc) can be a great for guests who are shy or don't know many others and a nice way to connect with them if you have a larger group and won't be able to spend time with all of your guests individually. For us, we wanted a guest book alternative that could double as wall decor, because we didn't feel we'd ever pull out and read an actual book, whereas having something we could hang at home would be something we would look at every day and double as being a way to make our house more beautiful.

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  • Martha
    Devoted February 2024
    Martha ·
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    Honest opinion programs are non essential. In the end its something more to pick up at the end of the night. The guestbook I feel is important and I think you would like to have it in the end. We are looking for one of those new trendy ones to place on one of our walls once we get our home.

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  • Brittany
    Just Said Yes November 2020
    Brittany ·
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    We're skipping the programs and opting for a rustic window sign with vinyl printed on it with the wedding party names instead. Out guest book will be a guest "log" which is basically a fancy board with live edges that we will have engraved.

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    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    Both are optional. Programs are nice but really only needed for a religious ceremony where guests need to follow along. They get left behind most of the time.
    The guestbook is nice to have but unless you have an attendant asking folks to sign, many will not take part.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Nope! Neither is needed. 👍
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  • Jessica
    Master September 2020
    Jessica ·
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    We don’t plan on doing programs, but we also have a much smaller wedding (50).
    Rather than a traditional guestbook, I picked a (probably too big for our small guest count) piece of wall art I loved that has room for people to sign. I’m planning to hang it with our wedding pictures. I know a lot of people stuff guestbooks in closets or boxes- somehow I recently ended up with my aunts from her first marriage and I’m probably the only person to have looked at it in the 34 years since they got married. Scrapping the Guestbook and Programs? 1


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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Programs are a waste and guests books are too (especially the traditional ones). If you sent invitations then you already have everyone’s address. No need for them to write their name and address again in a book.
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