Save the Dates

I mean people toss your invitation and thank you cards too, but you send them as a means of communication. People like save the dates so they plan vacation/work time and get hotels as needed.

You could always do an electronic version of it like email save the dates

View Quoted Comment My fiancé’s main argument is why spend the money on that when we could spend it on something else we want.

View Quoted Comment There would be a few I’d have to send by mail because they don’t have email or internet access (older family members.

If you don't have many out of town guests they probably aren't really that important. But I know for me basically all of my family outside of my parents are out of state so I wanted to give them ample notice and time to make travel plans.

I do still see our Save the Dates on some of our friends' and families' refrigerators/bulletin boards though, so not everyone just tosses them immediately!

He’s mostly right. Save the dates aren’t a necessity unless you’re having a destination wedding or a weekday wedding.

We did our STD as a fridge magnet.
Gives them multiple purposes. Communicated our wedding dates AND it’ll hold up their kid’s newest color sing picture up on the fridge for display

I am doing save the dates for exactly the reason you stated. I am going to be doing them as magnets though in hopes that more people will keep them and wont just get lost in their stacks of papers or thrown away.

You'd be surprised how many people like to keep their save the dates until the invitation arrives. But it really depends on your crowd. We sent STDs to our guests for a few reasons:

-We're getting married 3 weeks before Christmas

-Over half of our guest list will be traveling from out of state

-I have family members in the military

If you think you could most of them by email then do em by email, and hand write some of the older relatives a card.
I'm also doing a magnet! They're fun and less likely to be tossed out. I got them on sale for cheaper than the paper ones.

Zazzle is having a big sale right now, maybe FH will agree to it if you can get a good deal? Lol. I think if you have a lot of out of town guests it’s especially helpful. They can make travel plans and request time off early. Personally I don’t throw those things away (I still have my friends baby shower invite on my fridge and her son is almost one lol). I think people save them until at least when the wedding is over. But also a know your crowd thing.

You really need to know your crowd. If you have alot of guests from out of town/state..id definitely send save the dates to give them time to plab ahead

I don't think they're important. I think people mainly like to send a picture of themselves. Which then gets tossed in the garbage. They become helpful when you have a lot of out of town guests, a DW, or a very large wedding. Odds are people are going to ask you your date. Odds are you're going to tell people your date.

Depending on where you get your STDs, the amount you could save really is minuscule. I got ours from vista print for like $50. That money wasn't going to be a deal breaker somewhere else in my wedding honestly. Thats how I looked at it. It does help people if you are doing it somewhere they need to travel to plan accordingly. My sister needed the date of the wedding almost a year in advance because her boss requires them to have all their PTO in by the 1st of the year.

I have created our STDs and we are sending them electronically.

My save the dates were done electronically and in this way do not really concur a lot of cost. It can be as simple as an email or FB message saying: "Save the date for wedding: 2/22/2020. What is your address for the invitation?" I did exactly this for most of my friends and family. For FH's family, he got ahold of the parents and grandparents and had them both spread the word and collect addresses. Two birds, one stone. Super simple.

We just sent ours via email since we knew they’d probably end up in the trash anyway and didn’t want to spend the money.

Some people probably opened it and then forgot about it, which is fine. But some people made note and marked their calendars, and wouldn’t have been able to make it had they not known that far in advance (a couple people told us they were planning vacations around that time, and since they knew the date from our save the date, they deliberately planned their vacations around our date so that they’d be here for the wedding).

You should really just send it to people who you want to make sure will mark their calendars and not make other plans. But yes, some people will throw it away and/or forget about it, but that’s on them 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yes they have importance. My friends and family were getting real anxious before receiving a STD. It was very important for me because: 1. Nearly everyone is from out of state, 2. They travel various places for various reasons throughout the year so its necessary they know what days to block out on their calendars, 3. Working people, especially government jobs, need to schedule PTO early, 4. I needed a way for everyone to know what the website is for other details without calling everyone, 5. My friends/family who hadn't met my FH and who isn't on Facebook have never seen him and his have never seen me

We're personally not doing STDs, but plan on sending our invitations out a little earlier than normal. Just trying to save money!

View Quoted Comment That’s what I’m thinking just send our invitation out early.