Save the Dates

Thats plenty of time for save the dates especially if you don’t have many out of town guests. I had to send my resave the dates super early since our June wedding has been posted to March

View Quoted Comment Oh ok. Thanks for the reassurance.

I would definitely still send them (and book any other vendors you've been waiting to get). There are more weddings than usual in 2021 because of so many people rescheduling from 2020. And you never know how long they will take to get to people; it might not be as long as you're expecting. Also, we ordered our save-the-date (and change-the-date) magnets from Shutterfly and they were delivered to us pretty quickly. If you're interested in digital save-the-dates, my friends used Paperless Post, which seemed really convenient because they can also collect everyone's addresses for you.

View Quoted Comment Ok great! Thanks and thanks for the back up plan for paperless.

We opted to skip the save the dates and send out our invites a month early. Everyone close to us and our few out of town guests already know the date so we didn’t see the point in sending them out

With everything going on these days, I’d still send STD’s to give your guests time to properly plan. August is still a good amount of time to receive it before the invitation arrives.

View Quoted Comment That makes sense. Not everyone of our guests know the date

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the reassurance.

You’re fine! We sent our STD’s out 8 months in advance because we got in engaged then. I think 6 months is do-able.

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Thanks. I just felt like we were cutting it too close or something. Especially since we have to wait till the end of the month. I was thinking about production and delivery time lines but if 6 months is good enough, then I'll roll with it. None of them are going ridiculously far anyway. Thanks

Save the date cards are a recent invention. For the previous hundred years, people either used a phone call, put it in a regular card or letter, or Emailed. No matter how formal the invitation or the event is, the Save TD is seen as an infoal communication. Can be done any way that works. Whenever works. Though those very far, like internationally, passport/ visa time, or those who need to get coverage for a practice or fare for a big family, letting people know any time August to Beginning of Nov would be fine. With slashed airline routes that may be rearranged, to Covid restrictions, no one should be making far advance reservations that they cannot get refunds for.
So you can do without them at all, or do them only for the few who need advance notice, by phone or in an email. Or send Saves anytime between August and November 1 which would be the usual time anyway if not international guests, or international Destination wedding. Invitations go out to arrive 8-10 weeks out. Most people who have multiple occasions come up, will wait til all possible invitations are in 4-6 weeks out, then decide, either where can I afford to go. Or who is closer. No one actually saves that date for a friend, for example, if there is a short engagement sister or brother, invitation at 6 weeks out. They go to the event of the person they are most attached to. So sending them earlier makes no difference to guests who don't need extra notice. Like locals. Only you are held to having to invite them. So best flexibility for you is some kind of advance info only for a few. Rest, later Save phone call or email, or invitations.

Sorry: STD are an informal communication

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Ok. Thanks!

I was thinking to jump to the invitations. Our is also on February.

I sent out my save the dates with less than six months before our wedding and it was fine! It’s really up to you though, sending them online is a good alternative. Truly save the dates are a newer more modern trend and are not 100% necessary—especially if it’s adding a lot of stress to your planning!

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Yea. Guess it makes sense either way. 6 months does seem like enough time and then I'd send the invites early December.

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Thanks! It wasn't necessarily stressing me out. I was just so focused on the given time line on this app that I didn't think well who cares 6 months is still a good enough time length.