Save the dates

I have not heard that - I honestly would probably not spend the extra money to send out two Save The Dates, one is expensive enough. I would recommend sending them out a little earlier (maybe anywhere from 8-12 months before), just because you do want to get the date on calendars sooner rather than later, but I personally don't see the point in sending it twice.

Ummm no. Never heard of this before. That is different.

2 save-the-dates is not necessary imo.

6-8 months is the normal timeframe for save the dates. With everything going on, I don't see anything wrong with sending them out closer to the 12-month timeframe -- a lot of people do that anyway for a popular date, destination weddings, etc.

I personally prefer magnet versions so that people have a constant reminder.

If guests receive a save-the-date, they will assume nothing has changed unless they receive communication otherwise, and will await an invitation.

Two is too much, IMO. Like has been mentioned...just send them a little earlier. 👍

I’ve never heard of this before and, as a guest, I would probably be a little confused.

View Quoted Comment So a year ahead is ok then? Perhaps that's what we will do.

Is this venue a destination wedding out of the country? Then a year out makes sense. But if local to many guests, and travel in country for most of the others, that is too long. Every time things change, they will see, can't travel there now. now could. now can't. They will ignore it. Too far out is like no notice at all, especially now. In the end, whether they go or not, depends on how many invitations they have between 6-8 weeks out, because face it, no matter what they think a year out, if a close relative invites you to one that week, and a friend that is local does a week later, You are going to choose the closest people to you in relationship or space. If your second cousin's husband is invited to his brother's wedding, your second cousin will go with him. Close friend next week, fine. Now, even if they do not exactly overlap, and there is time for! hem to get to yours, will they go to a third wedding in 9 days? Not likely. And if time off is needed, they do not know that until 28-60 days out either. So getting it on your calendar, except verbally hearing about it, a year out, does not guarantee they will come. First come, first served does not apply to guests at weddings. It is who you know best or are closely related to. They are not committed til they answer the actual invitation at less than 8 weeks. Sending one Save, at 4-6 months, is enough for in country weddings. And particularly with Covid, it means you not having to call and apologize after you reschedule between a year out and 4-6 months. Followed by them redoing fights and accomodations, many of which are not changing reservations for free now. Fewer changes, people are more likely to pay attention. If you have family or friends who are very close, who book months ahead for a vacation every yoear, you can give them the information of a Save, that you will be sending an invitation in the month of May for your wedding date, place, time. This way, they do know. But be prepared, knowing does not mean they will not book their 2-3 week vacation anyways. Something more spur of the moment, sure. But people very often do not change an every year thing, 14-21 days, for a 1-2 day wedding. ... Look on the boards now, there are 2 I just read, did Saves at A year, Invitation or second saves ar 4-5 months, then calls, because no one responding from things sent too far out. That plus Covid are tough. More reliable information in a save at 4 moths, they will not dismiss .

We sent save the dates for our June wedding a year in advance because it's a destination for many people and with covid who the hell knows. We will be sending our invites out in February, four months in advance of the wedding, to give people a reminder that it's still on, and plenty of time to decide if, with pandemic restrictions, they can still come/ can book travel.

I think this is a year where traditional rules can be thrown out the window. That said, 2 save the dates seems unnecessary. If you really want to do it- maybe send out a virtual reminder? It will still get peoples attention but won't cost you another round of printing and stamps.

View Quoted Comment Thanks. Good advice.

No you send one 10 months out after you have finalized the guest list so people can save up if they need, schedule time off, make travel arrangements.


Venues and other vendors are in the business of trying to pressure you into spending more than you should and disregard etiquette.

We had originally decided to not send them at all when we had first planned the wedding for 10/10/2020.... but we had to reschedule with COVID. So we are actually sending business card style save the dates INSIDE our Christmas cards to save on postage.

No never heard this before. Due to covid we aren’t sending out save the dates at all. Just in case we have to cut the guest list

That's new to me. I never heard that from any other bride since covid. I would just leave it alone and only do the regular one time send out.

I've never heard of it and I won't be doing that for our March wedding

I have never heard of this and don’t think it’s necessary. As a guest, if I received 2 save the dates, I would think the date was changing and maybe there was a typo or something. Personally, I would not do this if I was in your daughters situation. She can send her save the dates a little early if that will make her feel better.