Save the Dates. Yes or No?

I think sending out Save the Dates is a great idea. Especially if a lot of your guests are out of town! 90% of our guests are, so that's why we sent them about 8 months before the wedding. They can get the date on the calendar and start to arrange travel plans.

I think if people need to plan far in advance save the dates are a must (even a free digital on), destination weddings, lots of out of town guests, multi -day events. But otherwise, I think just sending out invites a bit earlier than normal is enough.

All my family is close by, but due to our date being popular wedding month we are sending them out. I'm doing a 5x7 photo announcing our date.

Save the dates aren't necessary unless you're getting married on a week day or holiday weekend, having a DW, or have lots of out of town guests.

I think save the dates are unnecessary and a waste of money. Just tell people, or send a quick email. I write the date in my calendar and then throw it away.

I agree with lady. Just tell your VIPs. I have seen on here so many times that people send STDs and then don't want to invite said person when it's time to send out invitations. If you're on the fence, I would just save the money.

For us save the dates were necessary because almost every single guest needed to travel to our wedding. If most of your guests are local I don’t think they are necessary.

We sent out save the dates, and almost all of my family and parents friends were confused by them because they usually aren't done in my culture. Our friends and FH's friends understood them. The purpose is just to give an extra heads up, which we wanted since so many of my relatives live out of town. However, I don't know how necessary they actually are since you can always just send the invite 8-10 weeks out instead of 6-8 weeks out if you want guests to have extra time.

Most of our guests are within 5 hours of the venue.. a few are more like 10-12 hours, but I still didn't send them a save the date. I sent out invites 8 weeks prior (and honestly didn't expect for them to travel here) but they RSVP'd they were coming. I'd say if most of your guests will have to make flight/travel arrangements, sending an STD is fine. I've gotten them and just hung them on the fridge only to forget about the wedding until the actual invite.

Over 90% of our guests have to travel more than 3 hours, about half of them more than 10. So we sent out save the dates. If everyone was local, or at least 90%, we wouldn't have. That easy.

I'm with your fiancee. I think they're a waste of money, but if you want them he should at least be willing to discuss it. I don't plan to get them because I have such a small budget as it is, so i'd rather use that money on food or something else

You can send a digital save the date instead of printing/mailing etc. I think a save the date gives people time to request off work, find sitters for their children and book flights hotels. For most people 6-8 weeks is not enough time. That's only 3-4 pay periods. Some people may have to split the cost of travel between pay periods, and still have to get something to wear, hotel gifts etc.

A save the date can be a simply text. I sent out Save the dates in Jan for my Dec wedding and I have been having people call/text since February asking for hotel information. I just reserved room blocks yesterday so I'm already texting that info out and the invites haven't even gone out yet

We are sending save the dates because most of my FH's family are out of state and will need to know in advance to make arrangements. I also really wanted something wedding related sent out with a picture of us since my FH isn't making invitations with a picture on them, so it was a good compromise. I think I ordered too many though. Haha. I was expecting his mom to get all the addresses..

I agree with many of the previous commenters. I think it can go both ways - you can just tell everyone to save money on sending the save the dates, or you can send something electronically to at least have something more official out there. However, formal save the dates is great for larger families or if you have a lot of people traveling out of town and like the idea of them receiving something by mail.

My FH and I like the idea of the save the dates, so I did some hunting online and found a full suite of everything (save the dates, invites, rsvp cards, envelopes, etc.) for around $250 on Zazzle. Just waiting for our engagement photos to come in to order.

I think it's worth sending them if you can do so within your budget. But if you don't see the need for them and want to spend that money on something more important to you both, go for it! It's your wedding.

Hi Hannah Have you and your Fs decided if you will send save the dates or not? Where are you with the decision?