Save the dates then not invited?

It's definitely rude to send STD's and not an invitation.

If you got no answer from them, I for sure wouldn't have sent a gift! They couldn't even be bothered to respond!

I think the only time I would consider this even remotely acceptable (and even then..not really) is if you actually.jnow there is no way in hell the person would be coming to the wedding (like wouldn't be able to come no matter what)

And even then I'd send an invite out of courtesy and etiquette!

We sent a friend an invite for my baby shower who lives in florida...deff not coming...still got an invite!

The only thing you should have sent them is a bag of dicks.

www.dicksbymail.com

^ Ahahahahahaha!

Rude not only to not send an invitation but then to not respond to your inquiry...I hope these aren't people you consider close friends...

Your thinking is correct, definitely rude to send a STD but not an invitation.

Same thing happened to me from my cousin. She asked for address recieved a STD then nothing. Not a bridal shower invite or anything. I only found out about it from other family members that posted it on facebook. We're not that close so I didn't even question it but I did consider it very rude!!

This is extremely rude. Even if the wedding is called off, they should have still let you know. I had to reign in my FIL's. They made me send STD and they wanted me to send them to everyone and I was like no. I'm only giving them to family. You never know what can happen between now and then.

Whoa! That is beyond messed up! They don't deserve anything near the kindness you have given them. (And I'm pretty forgiving!)

Keep the gift!

The fact that you asked and they didn't even respond is really rude. I think it's bad enough if they changed their mind but they should have had the courtesy to tell you

I mean, it's not an announcement. It's a 'save the date'. Why would anyone ask someone to save the date if they weren't invited to the wedding?!

Super ride.

They might of forgotten to send an invite or it got lost in the mail. This happened to my cousin. My mom sent her a save the date and a month or so before my wedding,I realized they forgot to send her an invite!( didn't see their address on the invite list). She was so nice about it and said they would've came anyways! Lol. Maybe just send a message to them asking about it. Invites can get lost sometimes. ( hopefully that's the case!)

Ok just read you comment. That's just weird. Go anyways a crash their wedding? Lol

Want to bet that they finally figured out, after sending the STDs, that their budget wouldn't cover everyone they had on the guest list?

Yes it's very rude!

That's so weird.

That is extremely rude!!! My best friend just had this happen to her last weekend. She was kind of upset she was not invited. I would have definitely not gotten them a gift screw that. They didn't even invite me why the hell would I buy them something?

Yea that is extremely strange... and sure maybe something happened to your invitation, but it doesn't sound like it to me. If that was the case, they would have reached out to you before final counts to make sure if you were going or not. It seems like it was intentional, and extremely rude.