Save The Date

I think it depends on your crowd. I personally wouldn’t because I have a lot of older people that aren’t technologically savvy that I’d want to go. But I’ve seen a lot of virtual invites and such lately over sending them out in the mail so I don’t see why not! And it’s kind of different now because you just don’t know what will happen come that time.

I personally don't think it's tacky! I would definitely send the actual wedding invitations through mail (if it's a more formal wedding - otherwise, I think email is fine for casual wedding invitations), but I think emailed Save The Dates are totally fine.

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Good one! Most of our invites are to a much younger crowd and the Groom's grandmother who is 91 even has FaceBook Thanks for your reply... it does help.

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Thanks for your reply Lisa, Makes sense... Formal invitations over the mail vs Save-the-Date via virtual.

Um yes! Definitely dont risk the money for physical cards. Go virtual.

Absolutely fine! You may have a few old people judge, but that is their problem. Do whatever you want to do!! 🤍

I think it’s perfectly ok to do a virtual STD. For those older guests who aren’t tech savvy or don’t have a computer, I would reach out to them personally. As for the invitations, those need a physical card.

I think a virtual save the date is fine in this weird time of Covid! We have personally received 2 change of dates for one couple (in the mail...so much spent on postage and cards) And I would have been totally fine with a virtual save the date! I would be sure to include your wedding web site so people can keep tabs on details as the day approaches...and then mail an actual invite 6-8 weeks prior to wedding. Leave time to address envelopes, buy stamps etc. I would probably order invites about 12 weeks out...unless we are still having problems with Covid.

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Right! Just what I was thinking.. Thank you

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Thanks for your insight... The older folks can definitely get a more personal STD and not spend as much as sending it to every single person.

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See that's what I was thinking... wow having to change the dates twice already is frustrating enough and the money spent in the meantime as well. Thanks for the website advise... didn't think about that but definitely a must.

Save the dates are always informal and have been forever. Until the last couple years when the postcard/magnet trend became popular, people would spread info via word of mouth by phone call/text/email roughly 6 months ahead with no issues. Be aware that anything via email has the potential to get lost in a spam folder. Call, text or instant message to prevent that.


The only rule associated with them is once they are sent, that person cannot be uninvited. And proper etiquette is intended to navigate sticky social situations including a pandemic.

View Quoted Comment This is true! Although I do know one bride that had to uninvite due to Covid...they were engaged before pre-Covid. I was one of the uninvited but honestly they handled it really well! They combined a wedding shower with a drive by say hello to bride & groom...this is where it can be helpful to have street address and email address to spread the word, as well as wedding web site!

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You are so correct... Thank you so much.

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Ah.. Great idea.. thanks for sharing...

Absolutely fine! I've received plenty of electronic save the dates even during non-Covid times.

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Wonderful... Makes me feel so much better to see all your responses.

You don’t have to send out save the dates. Sometimes we just get invites for weddings, but we knew beforehand when the wedding was because they told us over text or email. If someone sent us a virtual save the date, it’d just be like them texting us when the wedding is. It won’t be as effective for us personally because we hang our STDs on the fridge and are constantly reminded of the event. If we got one as an email, we’d just be like okay they’re getting married, but it’s be the same as if you texted or called us telling us when the date was. Sorry that was a long post haha.

Hi! Congrats! My wedding is in July as well. Hoping things start to get better.


I sent out actual save the date cards, but I’ve received a ton of virtual save the dates and it was fine. Like someone said above it depends on your crowd, and also not having the save the date as a keepsake. I wanted to be able to have mine stuck on the fridge and my guests as well.
But either way it’ll get the message across so I say go for it!

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Makes sense... It is basically the same thing.. Thanks for the input.