Save the date: popular nickname or full name?

We used Nick instead of Nicholas for our STD's. Our invitations will have full names but thought we would be less formal for the STD's.

My STDs are our nicknames and the invites will have full names. NO ONE calls me Jennifer, so I hate using it at all but, ya know, tradition.

My name is Nicole, but everyone who knows me knows I go by Nikki. So on our STDs I put Nikki since it's less formal, and I'm still debating whether or not to use Nikki or Nicole on the invitations. so, probably no help to you! But good question. FH goes by his middle name, so that is what we are using on everything.

Haha my best friend's name is Teresa but I know her as Tess. It always takes me a minute to figure out who Teresa is when somebody calls her by her whole name. I think it just depends on how formal you want it. For STDs, I'd think it's perfectly fine to go with your nickname!

I had this same question! I had been working under the assumption that FH and I would use our full names (Elizabeth and Joshua) for STDs and invitations, even though we never use them. But when we started designing them, he had a huge reaction (No, I am Josh. I don't want to see "Joshua" written anywhere!) and I decided that since he cared so much, we would do it his way. I struggled to decide whether to do "Elizabeth and Josh" or "Liz and Josh" for a while. I ended up going with my nickname, too, so that we match.

ETA sharing in case any of these comments help you:

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/paging-all-etiquette-mavens-full-names-nicknames/fa197abb9e282445.html

We used my H's nickname on the STDs and also on our registry and full name on the invites.

I used both our nicknames because that's how the people that received them know us. On our invitations it will have our full names.

My fiancé goes by his middle name. We put that name for everything.

Does anyone else lol when they read "STDs"? No? Just me then?

@Allison, when I first started here before reading the CGs I told FH "holy shit, I didn't know STDs were so common for women to have nowadays"

@OP: my full name is Victoria, but a majority of FH's family and all of our friends don't know that, so on the STDs and the wedding website we will use Tori, but for the actual invites we will use Victoria. Not sure if we are doing programs, but if we do then we will use Victoria

For your save the dates I'd go by Ellie, but use Elizabeth on your wedding invitations!

I did receive one wedding invitation where for a few seconds I didn't realize who it was for...and I was a bridesmaid in that wedding I'd always called the bride Kate and actually didn't know what her full name was (and didn't know her middle name) and I'd always called the groom a nickname based on his last name. When I opened the invitation for a few seconds my honest reaction was "who are in the world Kathryn and Michael?" then I figured it out!

@Allison I do the same to be honest. haha. But, just like other PPs I think nicknames are okay on STDs because it's okay to be a little informal on those.

I think it's normal for STDs to be less formal, so I'd go ahead and use your nickname. I got by a nickname and will definitely use that on my STDs. Undecided on whether I'll use my full name on the invitation though

My fiancé goes by Nate or Nathan. Even his family call him that however I call him Nathanial and have since we met. He is all about tradition so he had no issues with me using Nathanial on all the wedding stationery.

Yes its fine.

We used FH's nickname on our STDs but will use his full name on our invitations. I.e. Jeremy on STDs and Jeremiah on invitations. I think nicknames (so long as they're not something silly like my FH nickname is "Chewy" can fly on STDs since they're less formal. We would NEVER put Chewy on anything wedding related!)

Mine won't because I go by my last name and that would get confusing. But I wouldn't consider it weird to use your nickname!

I had the same question. I think we are going to use our common name on STDs and Formal name on Invitations. The next step is whether or not FH will put Andy or Andrew on STDs. His family all call him Andy, but everyone else know him by Andrew.

I go by a nickname of my middle name and will be using that on anything that requires a name. Most people don't know my legal first name and I hate it, so it just makes the most sense to use the name people actually know me by.

Good thread, I never thought about this one.

I think STDs are when you should be able to show your fun side and be creative. Save the formalities for invitation