save the date, but no wedding invitation

I did give my maid of honor an invitation before anyone else, but, I don't know that it's a "thing" to give them to the bridal party first.

I wouldn't say anything to her. If she's inviting you, she will, and if your invitation was lost or anything, she'll either ask if you received it or follow-up once RSVPs are due.

Also, my wedding is at the beginning of April and I just sent invitations out like 1.5 weeks ago, soo, she's still got some time.

Maybe its just me but to give someone a save the date and not invite them would be completely rude right.

I would atleast tell them that plans have changed and we can't invite you anymore, right?

I don't know...I'm a very confrontational person and I just find that down right rude.

I agree with everything Allison said.

Hold your horses. I wouldn't worry until at least 6 weeks before the wedding. If you do confront her, prepare for her definitely to not give you one.

That said, there was a post about sending someone an STD and deciding not to send an invitation. It's near the top so you can see reactions to that.

Okay, thanks guys!

Yes, it is rude to send someone a save the date and then not invite them. But it would also be rude for you to bring it up with her.

Like Allison said, she still has time to send out her invitations.

Rude or not, If I got a Save the date and didn't get a invite as of about one month before the wedding, I would politely say something.

reason is that I do know of someone that had a wedding and there was at least one invite that got lost in the mail. the person that never got it, was angry for years because they assumed they weren't invited.

if you give a Save the date, then it's given with the idea that the invitation will follow. many actually say on them 'invitation to follow'.

I wouldn't consider myself that out of line to check up on the invite, and I'd rather be guilty of being out of line then have their be hurt feelings out of a possible misunderstanding.

I received a Save the date , but no invitation to a good friends wedding.... I didn't know that I wasn't invited until I noticed a facebook post that reminded the guests to RSVP. I asked my friend ,Because I had also moved in that time frame and thought mine had been lost and he told me he had to cut his list down a lot and he knew I would understand. -__- I was a bit hurt by that being that we were friends for quite a while and i had gone to the engagement party and been super supportive. I understand cutting the list but they should be able to tell you.

I would ask her but be prepared to be cut from the list. I hope it works out and keep us posted.

Say that all this times does go by and a month before the wedding I do not get an invitation, how would I approach it? I don't want to come off as too strong headed.

I would say, "you had sent me a std, but I haven't received an invite. I wanted to be sure it wasn't lost, am I still invited to the wedding?" Let her tell you and if she gives an answer you don't like, don't get upset and I would probably reevaluate my friendship.

Okies thanks girl!

This is an old post but I am going through this now and am doing research. I am in the hospitality industry and I think it is proper etiquette to follow up if you got a save the date but no invite. You have asked a person to make plans/accommodations and now they need to know if they need to change plans or cancel accommodations. Plus if the invite got lost in the mail or something, you as a guest do not want to make the bride and groom feel like you ignored their RSVP request - which is rude, or that you did not send a gift because you are rude, you just simply never got the invite. I think the proper etiquette is to follow up. If the bride and groom changed plans, they need to be prepared on how to properly address that when asked.

I'm in a similar situation except that in my case the groom is my husband's brother so I feel that it goes without saying, that we are invited no matter what but, you never know. I'm planning to reach out and RSVP even if we don't eventually receive the invitation because I think that would be the most appropriate thing to do. Head counts are important for any event. When I got married the first time, I had a few extra guests show up and ended up not having enough food so I would never do that to another bride.