Same Venue as Sister-in-Law

So because she got married there that somehow takes away from your wedding and your feelings towards the venue? I don't get it. They host weddings all the time, I am sure your guests have been to other weddings there as well not just your FSILs. What does your FH think about the venue?

I think you should do what you want to do. I'm sure your FSIL will love the memories it brings back x

I don't see a problem.

He loved it there. I was just worried when that was the first words out of his mouth

You can get married at the same venue.

Definitely not a problem, chances are any venue you pick someone you know got married there.

U think you should use the venue if you love it. Nobody will care that she loved it too.

Eh, I would actually keep looking. I feel like if I was getting married at the same venue with half of the same guest list, then that half would be constantly comparing mine to hers. Then again I really like to be unique, I didn't want a David's Bridal dress because I felt like too many others had the same dress and I didn't want to do the same decor as most people, etc.

If it was like a friend where it would maybe be that friend at your wedding but no one else from that friend's wedding I think it'd be totally fine. But seeing as something like maybe a 1/3 to a 1/2 of your guest list will be the same I'd try at least looking other places.

There was a venue I loved, we thought it was the one, I got emotional and everything...but I decided to keep looking anyway and it's a good thing I did because I found a place that fit even better. So if you have exhausted all other good options then it's fine.

One of the first things my mother said to me, when we started wedding planning, was that you don't want to have it the same place someone else in the family has been married. Our friend had a "soft hold," on a date, the same place my brother in law is getting married 3 months before, but he gave it up and booked another venue, instead, even with a very small, overlapping guestlist.

Of course I see a beautiful ballroom, in a Brides magazine, pointed it out and said I wanted to get married there. My mother said her cousin's daughter had been married there, but it's gorgeous with fabulous food. It was the only venue we visited and we booked it. 8 years had passed and less than 10% of the guest list was the same, so we didn't care. Considering the compliments we received, we have no regrets.

I think at 3 years ago few people will remember that its the same venue. i dont think its a big deal if you really love the venue, to me i would reconsider if the family members wedding had been in the past year or was the same year.

eta: i personally would want a new venue though

I would keep looking. There are so many venues you can probably choose from. And like HIH said do you want half of your guests comparing your wedding to his sisters the whole time? As much as people say they won't, they definitely will. I would. It would be different if it was a cousin or aunt but his sister is a little too close to me.

If you are both in love it has been a few years but there will definitely be comparisons.

Just because it's the same venue doesn't mean it's the same wedding.

Have you asked FSIL what she thinks? She may think it's a sweet sentiment that will help bond you two, or she may think you're stealing her venue and will cause drama down the road.

Exactly Jackie. That's really my only problem now. I was up all night looking for something else ANYTHING else and I just couldn't shake it.

I don't think it matters, unless your FH is totally against getting married there because his sister did! Also, did they have a good experience there? That should be a factor too.

3 of my 4 daughters had their receptions at the same place. Each was unique and I didn't hear anyone sitting there comparing the receptions. We hosted our guests very well and that is what they remember. go for the venue you want.

Yeah Anna it was great for them and my FH doesn't care at all. He doesn't even see why I'm considering these issues. He loved that venue with his sister. Thought it was gorgeous , had good service, great food. And he also said "my sister is my favorite person in my family" so he's honestly all for it if it's what I want

I think the only issue would be if you FSIL didn't have a good experience with them. But as far as it just being the same location- it will be a completely different wedding, with a completely different feel. I think that you should choose the venue if you teared up when you saw it- don't ignore for "gut feelings", they don't come often.

He sounds sweet, I'd go with it. At least you know they'll do a great job!

So if you grew up attending a certain church, is only one sibling allowed to get married there? That would not fly with many Catholic families like mine. My uncle had 8 children and about 4-5 got married at the same church. Go with the venue you want, as long as she is happily married still, otherwise it might conjure up bad feelings for her.