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Rude/weird to invite old friends/people who probably can't come?

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Lexi, on June 20, 2013 at 3:00 AM

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Hi all! I'm getting addresses together for sending out STD's/Invites and I was wondering- is it rude to invite people who, in all probability, won't be able to make it? I want to invite everyone, but part of me feels like I'm being presumptuous inviting someone who I know won't be able to come. Sort...

Hi all!

I'm getting addresses together for sending out STD's/Invites and I was wondering- is it rude to invite people who, in all probability, won't be able to make it? I want to invite everyone, but part of me feels like I'm being presumptuous inviting someone who I know won't be able to come. Sort of like "my wedding is SO important I actually expect you to fly from the back of beyond to make it."

Also, is it weird to invite people who I haven't seen in a while? I lived abroad for many years and though I'm back in the states, I'm on the other side of the country from where all of my old friends/acquaintances were. Since the wedding will be in my old hometown, there are tons of people I'd love to reconnect with, but they're old friends I haven't seen in forever/don't frequently talk to anymore.

Opinions appreciated!

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Master September 2013
Married2013 · on June 20, 2013 at 11:46 AM
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Like someone mentioned above… invite who you want and what you can afford. Don’t plan on people not coming. We’ve had people who we thought would in no way make it and they are already contacting us asking us information so they can get their flights booked. People will surprise you sometimes!
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Master June 2014
TooManyMistys · on June 20, 2013 at 12:00 PM
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We still invite, I usually let them know that I know the probably can't come but we wanted them to know we thought of them
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Master November 2014
Stephanie · on June 20, 2013 at 12:28 PM
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Your wedding is not an imposition! I've had to turn down invitations, but I never think, "UGH, I can't believe so-and-so thought I'd shell out all that money to come to the wedding! How rude!"

I usually think, "Oh my god, so excited for them!!! I'm so bummed I can't make it!"

Make a list of everyone you'd like to be at your wedding. If some people can't come, that's okay! You should still invite them if you want them to be there. And by the same token, don't invite someone "as a courtesy" if you really don't want them to come, or if you expect a decline.
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