Rude/weird to invite old friends/people who probably can't come?

IMHO I say invite them. I did just the same. True enough u make get some that decline and u may get some who accepts. You send them an invite will let them know you are thinking of them.even if they aren't able to make it. That way they can't say well she didn't even think of me enough to invite me. Not saying u are obligated to invite them for that reason. That was just me. Unfortunately a lot of my old high school friends declined but that's ok. At least they know I thought of them.

And by sending them a std they should be able to tell u from that if they will be able to attend or not. And if they let u know they won't be able to attend then you aren't obligated to send them a formal invite. But do what u think is best and what u want. And congrats and best wishes. Hope this helps. Sorry for the long post. I tend to go overboard with too many details but like to make myself clearest as possible.

I was always told, "invite who you want to be at your wedding especially those that will make it fun"

I can't invite as many people as i want because of budget, venue size, and already have a lot of family invited which leaves room for very little friends...

Just had a co-worker ask if she was invited to the wedding and im trying to condense the list, not expand it!

I'm inviting people that I'm pretty sure can't make it. I just told them that I knew it was a long shot but should they be able to make it, I would LOVE to have them there.

You can invite anyone you want

Invite who you want, but don't plan on them not coming. I invited some old friends who I was SURE wouldn't be able to make it, but they did.

I did that! Some people who are coming I definitely thought weren't going to. I was surprised when I got their response in the mail (in a good way of course). Doesn't hurt to do it.

People like to feel included and wanted. If you'd love to have them there, let them make the decision. Don't decide for someone else what's too expensive, too far, and whatever else.

We invited everyone who we wanted there regardless of whether or not I knew they could make it. We want them to know that we would like to include them on our special day.

I think you Should invite them. I invited my entire family knowing they would not be able to make the trip to ether bridal shower or wedding. I didn't invite them so I could get more gifts it was just because I wanted them to know that if by chance hey were able to make it, thu were welcome. They woul probably find it weird and offensive if I didn't invite them.

We're inviting some of FH's older family members who are unlikely to travel that far, but having discussed it with FMIL, we wanted them to a) know we're getting married and b) feel included.

Just be prepared if they say yes. Don't invite the 100 you know will be there and you are maxed out on space and cost for those 100 then say well these people wont come for sure but send invites anyway and then have to scramble when they do.

I think they might be more offended if you don't invite them rather than inviting them and asking them to travel. Even if they have to decline at least they know you wanted them there.

I think you should invite them. FH and I also lived abroad for a few years (that's where we met), so we have friends all over the globe. We invited everyone, knowing that most of them probably wouldn't come. Well, some are. And some of my friends here, in my hometown where we're having the wedding, aren't. You never know.

There are a couple of people who are elderly and I know won't come but I'm inviting them out of etiquette. It will make them feel good that they were thought of

Invite people that you WANT at your wedding. I wouldn't invite people you don't care to be there and don't care to associate with much outside of your wedding day. Send invitations to people that you want there regardless of whether they will be able to attend. I didn't get an invitation to a wedding once because I was living across country at the time and they assumed I wouldn't come . I cried when I saw the photos they posted all over facebook of all of our group of close friends there. I wasn't even invited! I actually would have bought a plane ticket.

I moved back to the area 2 years ago and I find it very awkward to be with this person now.

If you can afford to, then add them to the list. If they dont make it, then no harm, no foul. At least they will know that you still think enough of them to invite them. I personally just saw a girl i used to be really good friends with, she posted all of her wedding photos on facebook. Granted, we havent spoken in six years, but beings the fact that we used to be good friends, it offended me that she didnt even think enough of me to even tell me she was engaged.

Agree with Starbuck: if u WANT them there, then invite them. None of thos courtesy invite stuff, as in 'I'd going to invite them but don't want them there' because you never know who will say yes to coming!

As far as family is concerned, It is considered a good gesture to invite them to your wedding because every family dynamic is different. I am inviting my mother's cousins (my 2nd cousins) who I haven't seen in 10 years and have no relationship with. This is because A) Parents are paying B) My mom wants to use our wedding to "catch up" with them because we don't see them.

I wish I could follow the "are they going to make your wedding fun and memorable" rule with my guest list.

Friends is up in the air, do what you feel is right. My mother would rather go bankrupt than offend her side of the family, but when it comes to our friends she is questioning everyone I add to the list. Que sera sera!

You'd actually be surprised how far people will travel for a wedding. We have guests coming from China! I think if you want them there then invite them. I also included a lot of old friends that I haven't seen in awhile.

Do whatever you feel comfortable with! We have a few people on our guest list that I expect to say no...but if it happens...it happens. Just feel comfortable with it if they do say yes!

I had a few people that said they weren't going to be able to make it before I sent invites. But I was so proud of the invite I sent them anyway. And I figured if something changed they'd have all the information they needed.