Rude Bridesmaid

You will not get the responses you're probably looking for here. Kicking out or "firing" bridesmaids is highly frowned upon here. This is because these women are not your employees!

Kick that RUD bitch out. Fuck her.

Why don't you talk to her about it? "Hey, I've noticed you've been saying a couple things that are making me feel sort of uncomfortable...can we talk about how to avoid that?"

I would just politely tell her that she is no longer welcome in the wedding party. You are preparing to have the happiest day of your life so far and you need to be able to focus on the wedding and not all her negative comments. I would even say she is not welcome at the wedding there are friends sometimes that you just outgrow. If she is making those comments now there is no telling what will come out of her mouth at the wedding and obviously she doesn't have respect for you to put a filter on

OGK - I'm dead, bahaha!

Where's Jordyn? She can tell you all about how kicking BM's out went for her. Don't do it.

Don't listen to Amber.

@Amber ...um no. Kicking a bridesmaid out of a wedding party is rude and tacky.

Talk to her about how her comments are making you uncomfortable. You dont want to end a friendship.

Have you talked to her about this? I would sit her down and be very blunt with her on how she is acting. I'm not one to sugar coat this kind of stuff. FTB.

Maybe she is a bitter and might be envious of you. Try talking to her, and let her know that you dont appreciate her negativity and inappropriate comments and if that don't work and you are ready to cut all ties with her then maybe she is best as a guest or at home.

Talk to her. I'm sure she isn't aware she's rubbing you the wrong way.. It also may be the stress of planning that's making her usual sarcasm annoying to you. You've been friends this long, don't ruin it over something that can be worked out after a brief convo.

My advice is to think about it long and hard, talk to her like an adult let her know she's being inappropriate. If she dosen't give a shit you maybe just have to ignore her for a while. But if its something super serious like it might ruin your wedding inappropriate then yeah kick her out.

But if you do decide to kick her out be prepared to loose her altogether. I kicked a bridesmaid out for being a complete disrespectful bitch, but instead of handling it like an adult I stooped to her level words were said and we are no longer friends. Learn from my mistake.

I don't want to kick her out because I already know the friendship will end and I'm always thinking about other people's feelings so I'll have a talk her and after that if it doesn't stop then she pretty much going to be booting herself out.

Have her comments always bothered you or is this new? If it's new then you could just be a little sensitive. And maybe try discussing it with her?

Sounds like you need to pick up the phone and meet up with her in person so you can discuss your concerns like adults. If that doesn't work then you'll just have to suck it up and deal with it until after the wedding because kicking her out of the BP is incredibly rude and tacky.

@Amber

Amber just gave you a step-by-step tutorial on how to stomp out the type of honest discourse that mature women sometimes have to employ and instead race towards the public humiliation of a sorority sister/BM by ejecting her. Ignore that advice. You may not appreciate her comments about prior relationships (and they are inappropriate, no doubt), but telling her so is far more mature than "politely telling her that she is no longer welcome in the wedding party" and following that up with telling her that she isn't even invited to the wedding because you've "outgrown" her.

She's attending the group activities, and that counts for something. Pull her aside and tell her the truth -- be specific -- tell her comments about prior relationships are inappropriate and you'd appreciate it if she'd take it down a notch. Remember, you did say that you knew she was sarcastic before you asked her to be a BM, so it's conceivable that she thinks you're fine with her behavior.

Talk to her about it. If that causes a fight and you feel your relationship needs to end, then you can end it. But just know it will not be pretty and will be hurtful to her and probably to you, even if she is being a biatch. Especially this close to the wedding.

Hopefully it can be resolved by you saying "please don't bring up XYZ" and her saying "oh i'm sorry of course!"

Ugh Amber....

I think you can totally leave wedding out of it, and just talk to her like you would a friend who you were having issues with. Obviously you care about your friendship beyond your wedding party, so put those thoughts on hold and try to just talk to her about what's bothering you in the friendship!

Why do some people immediately jump to "she's jealous" when there is discord between the bride-to-be and any other female? Do they not realize that the myth of the jealous female is a sweeping generalization? Do they not realize how many people do not want to be married? Do they not realize that some of us don't really consider getting married to be worthy of occupying the number one spot on our "Things I HAVE to do Before Anyone Else" lists?