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RSVPs with a side of guilt....the ever-popular plus one dilemma

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Shannon S., on January 9, 2011 at 11:14 AM

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I'm sick, so FS went to my BM's birthday party without me last night. The invites went out Monday. The rsvp cards had the "___ seats have been reserved in your honor" wording. Venue capacity is 90, so if we gave plus-ones willy-nilly we'd have to exclude college buddies, cousins, etc. Our priority...

I'm sick, so FS went to my BM's birthday party without me last night. The invites went out Monday.

The rsvp cards had the "___ seats have been reserved in your honor" wording. Venue capacity is 90, so if we gave plus-ones willy-nilly we'd have to exclude college buddies, cousins, etc. Our priority is to have the people there that we care about. Also, I have stage fright and don't want strangers watching me get married.

FS was cornered a few times. One friend, with the GUY SHE JUST STARTED SEEING standing right next to her, told FS that she thought the RSVP cards were harsh, and that she should be able to bring a plus-one since she is playing her violin at the ceremony. A couple others weighed in as well. FS, bless him, said it was a very small wedding and that we cannot accommodate any extra guests.

Here I thought being invited was an honor, and it's possible to do without a new SO for one night. Am I mean, or are people just not hip to the reality of being a good guest? Help!

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Master March 2011
Shannon S. · on January 9, 2011 at 10:17 PM
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@Cabell - THANK YOU! I think part of the issue is that FS and I host a lot of parties that have a "the more the merrier" vibe. So for the first time ever, our friends are being told they can't bring extras. Of course, anybody should be able to distinguish between a cookout and a wedding. But since it's not a very formal wedding, maybe they can't tell the difference.
FS is being so awesome - I overheard him on the phone tonight with one of his groomsmen, who is friends with us both. The GM was asking about a date, and FS said, well, you won't really have time to attend to a date, it's a small wedding, and, "You know Shannon has stage fright, she's told you that, and we are NOT putting her through getting married with strangers staring at her. I want her happy. So sorry, no."
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