RSVP's and Save the Dates

Our venue (inside) ligally holds 75. our guest list is 109. rsvps' are due friday.

we have 14 currently in attendance...... 95% of our guest are a 2+ hr drive.

and we already told them were not paying for hotels. so i dont expect many more to attend. best wishes!!!

No, not really, that's the point of an RSVP. Don't send out STD's to anyone that you aren't 100% sure you will be inviting -- anyone that gets an STD also has to get an invite. This sounds like something you and your FH need to really talk about, crunch the numbers and prioritize. You don't have to invite every single family member that exists, but if he insists, then you'll have to wait until they RSVP (hopefully they would do so sooner rather than later.)

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I only sent out STDs to people that we are planning to invite to the wedding.. I didn't want to mislead anyone and then when it's time to send out RSVPs those ppl wouldn't expect one because they didn't get a std.. That's how we did it.. We wrote down names of ppl we both wanted and figured out from there..

We had this issue too and decided to only send STDs to ONLY those people who we definitely know we want to come. We set our RSVP date approximately 3.5 weeks prior to the wedding because we do have many OOT guests. We figure that by about six weeks out, we should have an idea how many people are/are not coming and then we can send out more invites (to our "B List" guests) if we find that many of our OOT guests cannot make it.

He does INSIST we invite everyone (including their kids). And they are more than welcome to come! But the fact of the matter is, I've never met them, we're in AZ and they're in Michigan and most of them are older and/or have children they aren't going to bring across the country. I just sort of want to know if they are going to try to come or not because our friends want a save the date too, not a last minute "oh hey people didn't show so you can come" type invite.

Thanks everyone!

Like 3/4 of my guests are OOT, so why are you expecting they won't come?

Because, it's December when it snows in Michigan, it's still during the school year, and it's right before Christmas, not to mention I've never met any of them and my fiance probably hasn't seen some of them in about 10 years?

You really need to talk to your fiance about narrowing down your guest list. It is ridiculous to invite people you haven't spoken to in 10 years!