Rsvp/children

Oh, I agree that children shouldn't be at weddings -- I'm simply warning that what we may think is simple and straightforward may not be so simple or so straightforward. Like I think I mentioned (maybe here, maybe another post), I wish I could have called all individuals with kids to get that through to them, but it didn't happen, though one kid isn't bad when all is said and done.

Not only as a warning for you, but for any other brides in a similar boat as you that might read this. What may make perfect sense for us may not make sense to others, so plan for that and a number of other possibilities.

"Your response is required by xx date. Adults only, please."

Haha I am doing the trifecta of no kids- I have Adult Only Reception to Immediately Follow on the actual invite. On the reception card, I again wrote, Adults Only please. And on the RSVP I wrote: M__________ ___ seats have been reserved in your honor. There should be no mistake that your children are not invited! Although we also talked to all those with kids so they can make arrangements and be prepared. All but one couple were cool with it.

There is one other factor to take in: The parents might get it - but they might not CARE.

When my cousin got married a few years ago it was VERY VERY clear there would be no children at the wedding. No one under the age of 21 had their name on an invitation. No exceptions.

My stupid cousin, who thought that wasn't very nice of them decided to bring her frickin 14 year-old anyway and then was miffed when she got to the wedding and there was no name card for her and no place to sit.

What in the hell do people expect? And most of these people have been or ARE married so it's not like they don't know this sh*t is expensive.

Now this is turning into a rant, lol.

My point is, you may want to keep a heads up for the couple or two that just flat out won't CARE that you didn't invite their kids.

I know we all have a different perspective on this subject...clearly lol but I am a straight forward person and I speak my mind and if you knew me personally and I told you not to bring your children to my wedding you knew darn well not too because my family knows that I can get really bitchy if I have to. It's all about respect to me and if they can't respect my wishes then they will not get into the door. If someone wants to test the waters with me and not abide by my rule they will WITHOUT A DOUBT BE TURNED AWAY AT THE DOOR WITH THEM AND THEIR CHILD/CHILDREN. @ Reenski I understand exactly what you are saying but I am prepared for those who arrive with kids now. Me and my MOH and my mother have talked about it and are all on the same page and I have arranged for 2 hostesses to be at the door checking names for those who have RSVPed. If they did not they will not get pass the door and the venue will be notifed also that it is an invitation only ceremony.

I'm also prepared for those who forget to RSVP and will be contacting them by phone, so I will give folks a chance. It's not like I'm not preparing them for this. I mean they have until August so it's not hard to find a sitter for you child. I will have a table set aside for those who forgot to RSVP but notified me by phone that they will be attending but only one table. It's not fair to me and my fiance' to not be able to enjoy OUR DAY (and I notice people like to say it's not OUR DAY or IT'S NOT ABOUT US) But it is so about us and it's our day no matter what. I reserve the right to put in place rules and people need to be respectful of my wishes are just don't come. I would love to cut down this guest list some more anyway so they will be doing me a favor..lol No I'm just playing (or am I)? hummm

HoundMama YOU ARE FUNNY...LOL

I have not written "No Children Allowed" or "Adult Affair" anyway. I thought this was going to be a big problem but it really hasn't. We decided to do inner envelopes that list the individual names of who is invited as well as list them out on our website when they rsvp. A couple of people asked about bringing their kids but were very respectful.

It may also have to do with the fact that my ceremony begins at 5PM. So most automatically thought that mention formal and children were not appropriate.