rsvp Vent

Did you number them so you can tell who the no-names are?


I've heard that a lot of people RSVP at the last minute, so I would wait until Sunday, then start picking up the phone and calling people. From other posts on this site, your situation seems very typical but I do think it's a bit rude of people to procrastinate!

View Quoted Comment I did not number them and I soooo regret it.
Thankfully I was able to figure out who two of them were from the postmark, and the 3rd I narrowed down to 2 people (a father and son) who live in the same town so I’ll see if I get their other rsvp or contact them both.

I am going to give it a few days into next week for any late rsvps before I starting calling people. The worst is all the people who have been telling me for 2 years “omg I’m sooo excited for your wedding!!!” and then don’t rsvp.

I'm pretty sure we'll be having the same problem... I remember my cousin's wedding three years ago, she had a guest call 3 weeks after the rsvp deadline saying they forgot to book a hotel room and if she could book one for them... And they never even RSVPd, she was convinced they were not coming. So yeah, clearly it's common and when it's my time to stress over it, you'll see me posting here about how people are garbage

It’s nerve racking when you put in the time to assemble the invites with the RSVPs & still nothing gets done! I had to track down 10 people & one was my brother!

While you might have to track people down, I’d also keep in mind that the USPS is currently a mess so it’s possible people sent them out already and they just haven’t gotten to you yet. We just got a thank you card from a birthday party we attended in June yesterday, but it was postmarked July 10 and they only live two towns away from us.

Omg I feel you! Ours are due Sunday and we are still missing a lot of people, although 3/4 have responded. Which is good

We still have 91 not responded and today is the deadline. I get informed mail and no responses in today's batch. It's incredibly frustrating to say the least. We have 1 yesterday with accept and no name. How does that happen?! LOL

We plan on reaching out to people tomorrow with a final deadline of next Friday. If they haven't given us a definite answer by Friday evening, they are marked as declined and will not have a seat or a plate at the wedding if they choose to show up. I understand COVID worries and USPS delays, but they've had 6-7 weeks to respond by now and I'm not going to beg people to confirm at this point.

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OMG I am so glad I'm not the only one in the same boat...We also have Informed Delivery and none coming today, so that just leaves tomorrow!! Sorry you are dealing with this too. Its soooo frustrating.

While I havent sent my anything yet I know both my sisters had this issue. Its so inconsiderate when people dont respond. Some people have no concept of what it takes to plan things.

No one ever tells you that the RSVP process is the absolute worst part about wedding planning! Lol

Also remember a lot of people see the deadline as the day to drop them into the mail. We got a ton of rsvps postmarked on our deadline date, or the day after (probably put in the box after the pick up time that day!)

We've gotten a good amount but I'm so annoyed at OUR FAMILY who keep texting me "omg, i love the invitations! Of course we're gonna be there!" but not RSVP. My MIL even said "sigh, I have to RSVP too?" to which I quickly replied "nope, you can starve" (I told her that I wasn't picking her meal so if she wanted one she had better lol. We both laughed at my reply). Even had to get on the bridal party about it. I understand the people waiting to see about Covid but for the others who "guarantee" they'll be there - why not RSVP now then??

They still have a month left so I'm trying to be patient lol.

We are doing strictly online RSVP's and recommending all guests download the Wedding Wire guest app. In 2021, I feel like everyone can work the internet enough to submit an online RSVP successfully

Omg, story of my life. I had the same issue from my fiance side. Only 10 people sent back RSVP. We had to hunt them down, so annoying. After I paid and gave the final head count to the venue, that's when everyone wants to come. Oh well, they had PLENTY of time.

To give you an idea of how bad the post office is right now... On July 27th we received a holiday card post marked DECEMBER 6 2020. Hopefully a bunch will start streaming in this week for you.

I was in the same boat too, I had 119 no responses earlier this week, and my RSVPs were ONLINE! No mailing back cards required!

I am so thankful I built in 2 weeks between the RSVP by date I told my guests and when I actually need to submit final numbers to my venue. This week I delegated to my mom, my dad, and my FMIL to start working on their lists of missing RSVPs and today I am only missing 18!

One thing I've learned is that our weddings are completely consuming our lives right now, but that is NOT the case for literally every other person on the guest list. They don't mean to be rude, people just forget because they are not neck deep in wedding planning like we are.

Go ahead and start the calls/texts/emails and delegating today!

Same thing happened to us!!! About half of the guests RSVP’d very late prior to the wedding and a handful didn’t answer at all even after we reached out multiple times. This sucked because we couldn’t give our caterer the accurate number at the end but had to guess. I would say don’t stress out too much about it. Most people are always late responding to those but they will.

I feel like this is unfortunately super normal. All my friends have had the same issue with RSVPs. Add covid concerns and it's just a nightmare. I'm still sorry that's happening. People should definitely still have reached out and talked to you about their concerns. However, I think some people just honestly forget about the RSVP by date so don't feel like you're being rude if you have to reach out to people. You shouldn't have to but at this point you gotta know who is coming or not at this point. Just be very straight forward and copy/paste text if you can. Don't spend time calling everyone. Ain't nobody got time for that. "Hey, I have not received a wedding RSVP from you and I need to let the caterers know by X DATE if you're coming or not." You can also add "I understand if covid is a concern for you but If I don't hear from you by X DATE I will mark you as a no" ...or something like that. Don't let people stress you out. You got this!

I feel you! I messaged everyone directly to get more responses quickly and it's gone well for me. People are lazy and unfortunately brides/grooms have to take the initiative.

View Quoted Comment This is the approach I took and it allowed me to keep track of everyone myself when I contacted them. Our RSVP date isn't until the 31st, but I now only have 15-16 people left to give a response.