RSVP spinoff: how many people RSVP'd yes and didn't show?

We had about 10 people RSVP yes, but didn't show up for various reasons (some just didn't show). But it worked out because we had about 10 additional NON invited guests/ people who declined, show up.

We had 5 but all told us before the wedding (but of course after the final payment had to be made).

It boggles my mind that some people just don't show up without saying anything. like really??? why the hell did you RSVP yes?!?!?! wtf bro?

It boggles my mind even more that people say no and come anyway.

Two, one was sick and one was a flaky cousin's plus one but we had two "crashers" so it all evened out

Always give the venue a lesser amount - but to seat for more. Let's say your expecting 104 people. Tell the venue you have 100 yes responses, and to set for 11 tables of 10 - obviously adjust the number if your tables are larger (12's) or smaller (8's). If all 104 show up you're safe, if more show up you're also covered. The only hitch is that you will owe the venue $ at the end of the night (they will definetly have a correct count). You should not only do this for your weddings but anytime your are renting someplace for a party.

We had 2 people say they were bringing someone and then didn't. My husband's cousin didn't come and never even offered a reason. He was one of those we had to track down for an RSVP. One of my husband's friends said he was too hungover from the night before. He is a jerk. So i guess that's a total of 6 (counting dates, everyone got a +1).

I don't think that works that way Dale. If they set 11 tables of ten, they will charge you for 110 people.

No. Do not do what Dale says. It makes caterers insane and it can potentially leave you with not enough food.

I'd send the no shows a bill. That is hideously rude.

Yeah...Dale idk what you are talking about. My venue/caterer wants to know a final number, and that is how many they will set for. Because that's how many people you are paying for.

I'd be pissed if 6 people didn't show. That's about 300 bucks wasted.

At the final count we had 6 less guest than I had given at my final count. But because I knew that guest list inside and out I can tell you that we had about 11 guest RSVP yes and no show and about 4 guest show up that never RSVP'd or guest who bought an uninvited plus ones. I also had guest who brought a different plus 1 than they had RSVP'd for (ex: husband was sick so they brought their best friend). Most people called us the week leading up and said they were sick, or something came up and they wouldn't make it, but this was all filed under my IDGAF list because it equaled out pretty well at the end.

We haven't sent out invites yet, but if people rsvp I expect them to show, unless there is a good reason they don't (illness, death, etc), but I also think they should provide notice. I know my caterer requires final numbers 2 weeks before the date. If you haven't told me before two weeks before you can't come after you have rsvp yes, then I would truly rethink our relationship. That is just my opinion. I hate being late for places and do not make commitments I cannot keep.

No one listen to Dale, that's terrible advice. I had 3 people no-show but they did call and we did get a massive snow storm that night. Rhey lived 3 hours away, I understood. most everyone got snowed in until Monday and not everyone could do that.

I don't even think my brain could wrap around the numbers involved in what Dale is saying. I usually try to tell people the most accurate information I have available and trust that professionals can deal with changes I didn't expect either.

I went to a wedding and knew a few people that did NO Shows. So when I made my guest list they were not included. They aren't very close to me but I probably would have extended an invite to them had I not seen their NO SHOWS at another wedding. I Like @FutureS stated would rethink my relationship with those that flaked out and did not come. Not only is it rude but shows me you don't care to give explanation to me prior.

I also was one that had RSVP'd to my cousin's wedding. But my Mom had passed away a week before and I spoke with him prior to it. He didn't even bat a lash, he just knew my Dad and I would not be coming.

We had 3 but all had flights canceled due to weather. Some crazy storm came through and the airports were closed. Unfortunately at that point there isn't much you can do!

I RSVP'd to my friend's wedding as a yes, and then our whole family got the flu so bad that we could barely move. I did text her the day before, though, and tell her, so she wouldn't be surprised that we weren't there! I was bummed we couldn't make it, and so was she, but sometimes things happen unexpectedly! =( Don't be too hurt if some people can't make it, even though it's a total bummer. Sometimes, you just can't stop the flu, or a car breaking down or something! =(

Barring health issues and canceled flights, I'll be pissed if anyone RSVPs yes and then doesn't show. I could have saved money.