RSVP shocker.......(note the sarcasm)

Who does that?!

I did a wedding website through here and had people RSVP only through the website. In the invitation I placed a paper with the names of the people I was inviting and explained to them to search here name on the website. This only allows the people you invite to RSVP because if you don't put the name on the website they cant RSVP for that other person.

Kristine, I'm worried about that. They may just RSVP the names, and show up with the people they would have added to a paper RSVP!

I'm doing it the same way, on the website, and I will have a shit fit if someone shows up with no mention of an uninvited guest.

It sure will happen. I had one person add three unrelated random people we don't know..... Yea they do that smh

Yup, I think everyone realizes that it happens at one time or another. FH and I are having an adults-only ceremony and reception. We followed all the proper etiquette rules and never actually put "adults-only" anywhere - just "x" seats have been reserved on the rsvps, put the names of only those invited on the envelopes, etc. and wouldn't you know, we've had 2 guests come back to us and say, "my kid doesn't need a seat, can we bring them?" Ugh. No.

Not one of my 150 couples did this. I really recommend just writing the guests' names in yourself. I left nothing for them to do but check the "confirm" box or the "cancel" box. I feel like when you leave blank spaces for them to write names, they will go consult their family trees. Lol.

One person did add their child though.

I have to say, to bring hope to the other brides *lol*, that I did not have a SINGLE person add on any extra guests. I have had one person,who we didn't give a plus 1 ask if he can bring someone but he didn't just add someone.

THERE IS HOPE

Edit: Now, did I have to chase 1/3 of my invites down? Yes, I did. lol. So get prepared for that.

I didn't have anyone do this. We invited 140 people and not one of them wrote an uninvited person on the RSVP. If they had I would have called and let them know they weren't invited.

Good idea V. I think I'm just going to write names on the response cards now. Hopefully that will save a lot of headache!

Kristine ... the WW website RSVP page has a comments section, so it would be easy for someone to tack on more guests there. I didn't have anyone do it, but we are having a small wedding (about 50 people) so we had discussed invites with most of our guests anyway.

@Amber I printed them on a clear labels and placed them that way, so it looks neater. I'm so glad I took the time though!

I also had to chase down a million RSVPs though. I did everything for these people, I put stamps on their little envelope, had RSVP available online, they could've called or texted me, and even so, I had to chase after them. 3 people were unaware that they had to send it back, even. It's so hard not to judge... Lol.

Thats the main reason why we are having a casual BBQ wedding. Its not very expensive so if people do bring extra guests it wont be a huge deal

Thats the main reason why we are having a casual BBQ wedding. Its not very expensive so if people do bring extra guests it wont be a huge deal

Amazingly we only have one guest invite himself a date. But I since he was the last RSVP we were waiting on, I was too happy that they were all in, and decided it wasn't worth fighting with him over.

I've been surprised that we haven't seen that at all. We are only waiting for two more responses. Also, everyone has filled it out properly, with one exception where the person checked the "will attend" box and then wrote a note that they were sorry they couldn't make. We had also seen them in person and knew they couldn't make it, so it was clear that it was just a mistake.

One cousin also asked my sister if her kids were invited (they weren't) and then sent a late message on FB that they couldn't make it due to work conflicts. Now, if only the last 2 responses (4 people) would respond, we'd be all set!

By the way, we also did not do anything to indicate the number of seats. Just addressed it to the people invited and, as I said, we have not had any issues.

That only happened to me w/my 1st wedding, when most of my guests were in their 20's and hadn't been married or exposed to wedding etiquette. Two friends did not even ask or say that they were bringing dates. They just showed up like that at the wedding! So by the time my cousin and his wife showed up later to the dinner, there were no more plates to be served and they had to eat at the hotel's restaurant at their own expense. Grr.... I'm not even in touch with those friends anymore and their dates (never met them before in my life) are in some of those wedding photos. Luckily w/my last wedding, this did not happen but we did have a relative show up who had not rsvp'd at all. This is why having a sit-down formal dinner is so difficult to plan. Good luck getting people to rsvp and rsvp correctly!

Wait... did you say plus FOUR?! Aw hell to the no!!!!

That is why we did "We have reserved _ out of _ seats for you" on our RSVPs. Finger crossed people use common sense!

I just got one back last night from my grandmother...she left off my grandfather's name and wrote in my 11 year old cousin...I don't even want to have that conversation with her

Just to give another perspective...

We didn't have RSVP nightmares. We had one mom ask if her two kids were invited, and since she isn't close family of mine, we said no.

No one added people that weren't listed on the invitation.

Then again, I'm in the South, and etiquette is still very important.